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hey guys,

there is a girl in my university we have some classes together and she is beautiful and smart (but not very much) and i like her... but i don't know much about her and i am too arrogant/coward to approach her and start a conversation with no background.

i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance.

have u ever exprienced the same thing? and in your opinion what should i write in my messages to have a good impression on her?

thanks.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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This sort of thing might sound romantic in some sh*t film, but in reality it's a cowardly and awful way to make an impression on the girl. So many posts here are "There's this one girl that I really like..."

FORGET ABOUT TRYING TO GET THIS ONE GIRL.

Read the DJ Bible. Realise what women are attracted to. Become confident. Start talking to her. Start talking to other girls. If you're confident and funny, try to charm her. If she responds well, go to the next level, if not, move on and talk to other girls. If you have Oneitis, chances are you'll fail.
 
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Byezbozhniy is absolutely right............... This is not the movies grab your balls like a Man and just say Hi to her Woman LOVE self confidence......don't literally grab your balls while you say Hi to her though;)
 
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amirsung said:
i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance.
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Like another poster said, I suggest you work on your game and overcome your anxiety of talking to a woman you find attractive.

You think that you are the only one who is pulling that " annoynymous ID" crap? she probably got hundreds of faceless guys pm her every week, the only good thing about it is that they are far away. Now in a nutshell you are telling her "hey baby, you can't see me but I can see you and I go to your university" - to her it will sound like the begining of a bad stalking story.

Suppose all this will work, and you build yourself up to be this great guy, do you think once you meet her that she won't be dissapointed??? You can talk the talk but if you can't walk the walk then don't even bother. Work on your weaknessess so that you won't have to hide behind some online persona and face her like a man. Finally I would also like to add that it is counterproductive to focus your entire energy on one hot chick when you are going to university and you got thousands of them.
 
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thank you guys. now i realized that it was a retarded idea.
i'm going to work on my weaknesses as you said, and if i lost this chick, i don't give a damn ;)
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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by the way, you are right about the movies... i think movies are the source of most misunderstandings!
 
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amirsung said:
...i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance...
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Are you majoring in cyber stalking?
 
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I was thinking the cyber-stalking thing too. Even if you were to eventually meet this girl and hit it off, I can see a scenario where you two are talking and she all of a sudden says "how did you know that?"....

On the bright side, good that you're moving on....forget her. Just work to become comfortable in your own skin and you'll automatically exude that confident vibe.....
 
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amirsung said:
hey guys,

there is a girl in my university we have some classes together and she is beautiful and smart (but not very much) and i like her... but i don't know much about her and i am too arrogant/coward to approach her and start a conversation with no background.

i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance.

have u ever exprienced the same thing? and in your opinion what should i write in my messages to have a good impression on her?

thanks.
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Aurgh! No! No! Absolutely not! This is stalking.

Find a way to talk to her one on one, in person. Avoid finding info about people online whom you barely know. Say hello - in person. Then talk. Don't go for hitting on her after 5 minutes. You're not there yet. It might not be your style. So just... talk.

And if she's nasty, forget her. You've just learned that this woman is insane. If she's not, well, just be sure to talk for a few, then leave.

The next time after that, you can now talk to her more easily.

Avoid online hunting for her.
 
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