"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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being an online secret admirer...

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hey guys,

there is a girl in my university we have some classes together and she is beautiful and smart (but not very much) and i like her... but i don't know much about her and i am too arrogant/coward to approach her and start a conversation with no background.

i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance.

have u ever exprienced the same thing? and in your opinion what should i write in my messages to have a good impression on her?

thanks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This sort of thing might sound romantic in some sh*t film, but in reality it's a cowardly and awful way to make an impression on the girl. So many posts here are "There's this one girl that I really like..."

FORGET ABOUT TRYING TO GET THIS ONE GIRL.

Read the DJ Bible. Realise what women are attracted to. Become confident. Start talking to her. Start talking to other girls. If you're confident and funny, try to charm her. If she responds well, go to the next level, if not, move on and talk to other girls. If you have Oneitis, chances are you'll fail.
 
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Byezbozhniy is absolutely right............... This is not the movies grab your balls like a Man and just say Hi to her Woman LOVE self confidence......don't literally grab your balls while you say Hi to her though;)
 
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amirsung said:
i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance.
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Like another poster said, I suggest you work on your game and overcome your anxiety of talking to a woman you find attractive.

You think that you are the only one who is pulling that " annoynymous ID" crap? she probably got hundreds of faceless guys pm her every week, the only good thing about it is that they are far away. Now in a nutshell you are telling her "hey baby, you can't see me but I can see you and I go to your university" - to her it will sound like the begining of a bad stalking story.

Suppose all this will work, and you build yourself up to be this great guy, do you think once you meet her that she won't be dissapointed??? You can talk the talk but if you can't walk the walk then don't even bother. Work on your weaknessess so that you won't have to hide behind some online persona and face her like a man. Finally I would also like to add that it is counterproductive to focus your entire energy on one hot chick when you are going to university and you got thousands of them.
 
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thank you guys. now i realized that it was a retarded idea.
i'm going to work on my weaknesses as you said, and if i lost this chick, i don't give a damn ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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by the way, you are right about the movies... i think movies are the source of most misunderstandings!
 
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amirsung said:
...i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance...
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Are you majoring in cyber stalking?
 
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I was thinking the cyber-stalking thing too. Even if you were to eventually meet this girl and hit it off, I can see a scenario where you two are talking and she all of a sudden says "how did you know that?"....

On the bright side, good that you're moving on....forget her. Just work to become comfortable in your own skin and you'll automatically exude that confident vibe.....
 
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amirsung said:
hey guys,

there is a girl in my university we have some classes together and she is beautiful and smart (but not very much) and i like her... but i don't know much about her and i am too arrogant/coward to approach her and start a conversation with no background.

i searched her name in Yahoo 360 and found her profile.
now i am thinking about the idea of posting messages to her using an annonymous ID and find out more about her. this way i have no anxiety talking to her and also i guess playing the role of "the mystery man" and stimulating her curiosity can give me some extra chance.

have u ever exprienced the same thing? and in your opinion what should i write in my messages to have a good impression on her?

thanks.
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Aurgh! No! No! Absolutely not! This is stalking.

Find a way to talk to her one on one, in person. Avoid finding info about people online whom you barely know. Say hello - in person. Then talk. Don't go for hitting on her after 5 minutes. You're not there yet. It might not be your style. So just... talk.

And if she's nasty, forget her. You've just learned that this woman is insane. If she's not, well, just be sure to talk for a few, then leave.

The next time after that, you can now talk to her more easily.

Avoid online hunting for her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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