"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being Addicted

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The reason most guys become addicted to women or anything else for that matter is because their thoughts are dominated by it. Focus all your energy on one thing and that thing takes over your life. This builds up your need to have more until it starts to become unhealthy.


You'll notice people who have alcohol problems, they make alcohol the center of their universe. They think of little else and have little other things they like to do. The same applies with men who think about sex, women or a woman 24/7.


The advantage guys who lost a GF (for example) have over an alcoholic is that they're over it after a few weeks because they know the girl is gone and it hurts hard for a while. For aloholics theres always a supply of drink there to keep them addicted.


Always have plenty of hobbies/interests. That way nothing dominates your thoughts and thats always a good way of overcoming addictions. It also leads to a more balanced, healthier life. Don't automatically have a negative opinion of things you havn't tried. People are quick to say that reading a book is boring etc but generally people who call things boring, thinks boring.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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