"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being Addicted

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The reason most guys become addicted to women or anything else for that matter is because their thoughts are dominated by it. Focus all your energy on one thing and that thing takes over your life. This builds up your need to have more until it starts to become unhealthy.


You'll notice people who have alcohol problems, they make alcohol the center of their universe. They think of little else and have little other things they like to do. The same applies with men who think about sex, women or a woman 24/7.


The advantage guys who lost a GF (for example) have over an alcoholic is that they're over it after a few weeks because they know the girl is gone and it hurts hard for a while. For aloholics theres always a supply of drink there to keep them addicted.


Always have plenty of hobbies/interests. That way nothing dominates your thoughts and thats always a good way of overcoming addictions. It also leads to a more balanced, healthier life. Don't automatically have a negative opinion of things you havn't tried. People are quick to say that reading a book is boring etc but generally people who call things boring, thinks boring.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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