wordism
Don Juan
I've tried... it's just not in me at all...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Being a peoples person is not in me..
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not either.
I always do things alone. I study alone, I eat alone, I work alone.
But atleast one night a week go do something you like in a public place. See a concert/movie/play/whatever. Do SOMETHING. If you can't make friend's at events like this then you need some help. As long as people see that you are goal oriented, happy with who you are (even if that happens to be a loner), and confident with your mind and body they'll come to you. No need at all for you to mingle with people and be social all the time.
Same applies to women. I don't go clubbing and make approaches all the time like a lot of guys on these boards do. I just keep moving closer to where I want to be with my life through school/work very independently and almost anti-socially, and people naturally take notice whether or not I talk about it with them. You're bound to be approached by or have women introduced to you by mutual friends anyhow.
The point is: you don't have to be a guy with amazing social status to have an awesome ltr or even have casual sex on a regular basis. As a matter of fact I think LOTS of women are really REALLY turned on by guys that stick out of the crowd by being super independent.
I always do things alone. I study alone, I eat alone, I work alone.
But atleast one night a week go do something you like in a public place. See a concert/movie/play/whatever. Do SOMETHING. If you can't make friend's at events like this then you need some help. As long as people see that you are goal oriented, happy with who you are (even if that happens to be a loner), and confident with your mind and body they'll come to you. No need at all for you to mingle with people and be social all the time.
Same applies to women. I don't go clubbing and make approaches all the time like a lot of guys on these boards do. I just keep moving closer to where I want to be with my life through school/work very independently and almost anti-socially, and people naturally take notice whether or not I talk about it with them. You're bound to be approached by or have women introduced to you by mutual friends anyhow.
The point is: you don't have to be a guy with amazing social status to have an awesome ltr or even have casual sex on a regular basis. As a matter of fact I think LOTS of women are really REALLY turned on by guys that stick out of the crowd by being super independent.
Smooth Player 056
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You need the "Ultra- Secret Hypnotic Seduction Manual"...listen to it at night and you it wll become an instant DJ in 2 weeks.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SELF-MASTERY
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I'm socially bipolar: I do my best work one-on-one, but there are times when I can completely own a room of people. I'm working own building my group skills.
just curious but ive actually seen one of those audio cd's for sale on amazon, never bought it, how was it?
Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
You need the "Ultra- Secret Hypnotic Seduction Manual"...listen to it at night and you it wll become an instant DJ in 2 weeks.