wordism
Don Juan
I've tried... it's just not in me at all...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Being a peoples person is not in me..
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm not either.
I always do things alone. I study alone, I eat alone, I work alone.
But atleast one night a week go do something you like in a public place. See a concert/movie/play/whatever. Do SOMETHING. If you can't make friend's at events like this then you need some help. As long as people see that you are goal oriented, happy with who you are (even if that happens to be a loner), and confident with your mind and body they'll come to you. No need at all for you to mingle with people and be social all the time.
Same applies to women. I don't go clubbing and make approaches all the time like a lot of guys on these boards do. I just keep moving closer to where I want to be with my life through school/work very independently and almost anti-socially, and people naturally take notice whether or not I talk about it with them. You're bound to be approached by or have women introduced to you by mutual friends anyhow.
The point is: you don't have to be a guy with amazing social status to have an awesome ltr or even have casual sex on a regular basis. As a matter of fact I think LOTS of women are really REALLY turned on by guys that stick out of the crowd by being super independent.
I always do things alone. I study alone, I eat alone, I work alone.
But atleast one night a week go do something you like in a public place. See a concert/movie/play/whatever. Do SOMETHING. If you can't make friend's at events like this then you need some help. As long as people see that you are goal oriented, happy with who you are (even if that happens to be a loner), and confident with your mind and body they'll come to you. No need at all for you to mingle with people and be social all the time.
Same applies to women. I don't go clubbing and make approaches all the time like a lot of guys on these boards do. I just keep moving closer to where I want to be with my life through school/work very independently and almost anti-socially, and people naturally take notice whether or not I talk about it with them. You're bound to be approached by or have women introduced to you by mutual friends anyhow.
The point is: you don't have to be a guy with amazing social status to have an awesome ltr or even have casual sex on a regular basis. As a matter of fact I think LOTS of women are really REALLY turned on by guys that stick out of the crowd by being super independent.
Smooth Player 056
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You need the "Ultra- Secret Hypnotic Seduction Manual"...listen to it at night and you it wll become an instant DJ in 2 weeks.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SELF-MASTERY
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I'm socially bipolar: I do my best work one-on-one, but there are times when I can completely own a room of people. I'm working own building my group skills.
just curious but ive actually seen one of those audio cd's for sale on amazon, never bought it, how was it?
Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
You need the "Ultra- Secret Hypnotic Seduction Manual"...listen to it at night and you it wll become an instant DJ in 2 weeks.