"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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like you probably know, when talking to a girl, you want to try and leave stuff out, to make them wonder about you. for example if you mention you drove your car, dont brag that its a BMW.

Well a good way to do this is to, whilst talking try and get them to ask you questions. What i mean is that instead of giving away all the details, leave out details that will make the girl ask you a question to find out the detail.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Can you give us an example? This sounds KBJ to me... I know it isn't, but the description is so bland that it means nothing.
 
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Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
Can you give us an example? This sounds KBJ to me... I know it isn't, but the description is so bland that it means nothing.
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its vague but very true.

don't be an open book. Leave details out. Never feel the need to explain or justify yourself.

When women ask me what i do, i give them a vague answer. But since I am far from a bum, they see that I am not one. They are intrigued. Same with everything else.

i guess it actually helps to be smart, well off, well traveled, etc when you want to be more mysterious. It creates more questions and more mystery.

Its hard to be a mystery when you were born in bumble****, MS, lived in the same house and worked in the same place down the road.
 
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Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
Can you give us an example? This sounds KBJ to me... I know it isn't, but the description is so bland that it means nothing.
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For example

Girl: Where you been?

instead of replying with "i went to 'name town' and i did such and such blah blah blah"

you say "iv been out of town"

now instead of saying oh cool, she will ask you where you went, once you only give the name of the town, she will ask you what you did there.

Just make sure you do not give one word answers, otherwise you will seem antisocial and she will just be like "whats up with you"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
or you can be confident and natural human to talk to
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i wasnt suggesting you should be stupid about it, just give her the basic details and dont tell her the extra details unless she asks for them.
 
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Originally posted by frivolousz21
or you can be confident and natural human to talk to
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HAHHHHH HAHHHHH HAHHHHH*deep donkey laugh*

Yeaaaaahhhh!!!! Me like being confident and natural!!

No time to play dumb games! Games are dumb, nobody like stupid games! Me smash dumb games!!! AAAARRRGGGHHHH!!!

No such thing as mystery only truth, truth in everything you say. Only have to see truth beneath lies to have mystery. So simple game. Why make into game? Games are dumb, games are stupid and boring!

When I go out I give away all. I leave nothing for people to expect. They know who I am, I put cards on table, than say all in. They get to choose fast, no waiting, I hate wasting time on dumb games. Sopmeday mystery and excitement will be gone from life! Just play smart. No wasting time, No being happy, just do what you have to to survive.

Tell truth always. If somebody wrong, abouut how they think explain yourself. Let all your heart out. Tell them they wrong and say There is no mystery to me. Tell them! Always let them know what you thinking of them. Tell them you come say hi because she beautiful. Not because you want to have fun.

Must work always. Don't stop for enjoyment.
 
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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
For example

Girl: Where you been?

instead of replying with "i went to 'name town' and i did such and such blah blah blah"

you say "iv been out of town"

now instead of saying oh cool, she will ask you where you went, once you only give the name of the town, she will ask you what you did there.

Just make sure you do not give one word answers, otherwise you will seem antisocial and she will just be like "whats up with you"
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LOL that isn't mystery. That's just not telling her everything. She ask for a little bit, you give her a little bit. That's called teasing:eek:
 
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The main point is, dont give her what she doesnt ask for, as it will drive her away.
 
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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
The main point is, dont give her what she doesnt ask for, as it will drive her away.
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Yes sir,

Now go back and change the initial topic, because it is wrong...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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