"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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like you probably know, when talking to a girl, you want to try and leave stuff out, to make them wonder about you. for example if you mention you drove your car, dont brag that its a BMW.

Well a good way to do this is to, whilst talking try and get them to ask you questions. What i mean is that instead of giving away all the details, leave out details that will make the girl ask you a question to find out the detail.
 

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Can you give us an example? This sounds KBJ to me... I know it isn't, but the description is so bland that it means nothing.
 
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Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
Can you give us an example? This sounds KBJ to me... I know it isn't, but the description is so bland that it means nothing.
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its vague but very true.

don't be an open book. Leave details out. Never feel the need to explain or justify yourself.

When women ask me what i do, i give them a vague answer. But since I am far from a bum, they see that I am not one. They are intrigued. Same with everything else.

i guess it actually helps to be smart, well off, well traveled, etc when you want to be more mysterious. It creates more questions and more mystery.

Its hard to be a mystery when you were born in bumble****, MS, lived in the same house and worked in the same place down the road.
 
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Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
Can you give us an example? This sounds KBJ to me... I know it isn't, but the description is so bland that it means nothing.
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For example

Girl: Where you been?

instead of replying with "i went to 'name town' and i did such and such blah blah blah"

you say "iv been out of town"

now instead of saying oh cool, she will ask you where you went, once you only give the name of the town, she will ask you what you did there.

Just make sure you do not give one word answers, otherwise you will seem antisocial and she will just be like "whats up with you"
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
or you can be confident and natural human to talk to
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i wasnt suggesting you should be stupid about it, just give her the basic details and dont tell her the extra details unless she asks for them.
 
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Originally posted by frivolousz21
or you can be confident and natural human to talk to
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HAHHHHH HAHHHHH HAHHHHH*deep donkey laugh*

Yeaaaaahhhh!!!! Me like being confident and natural!!

No time to play dumb games! Games are dumb, nobody like stupid games! Me smash dumb games!!! AAAARRRGGGHHHH!!!

No such thing as mystery only truth, truth in everything you say. Only have to see truth beneath lies to have mystery. So simple game. Why make into game? Games are dumb, games are stupid and boring!

When I go out I give away all. I leave nothing for people to expect. They know who I am, I put cards on table, than say all in. They get to choose fast, no waiting, I hate wasting time on dumb games. Sopmeday mystery and excitement will be gone from life! Just play smart. No wasting time, No being happy, just do what you have to to survive.

Tell truth always. If somebody wrong, abouut how they think explain yourself. Let all your heart out. Tell them they wrong and say There is no mystery to me. Tell them! Always let them know what you thinking of them. Tell them you come say hi because she beautiful. Not because you want to have fun.

Must work always. Don't stop for enjoyment.
 
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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
For example

Girl: Where you been?

instead of replying with "i went to 'name town' and i did such and such blah blah blah"

you say "iv been out of town"

now instead of saying oh cool, she will ask you where you went, once you only give the name of the town, she will ask you what you did there.

Just make sure you do not give one word answers, otherwise you will seem antisocial and she will just be like "whats up with you"
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LOL that isn't mystery. That's just not telling her everything. She ask for a little bit, you give her a little bit. That's called teasing:eek:
 
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The main point is, dont give her what she doesnt ask for, as it will drive her away.
 
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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
The main point is, dont give her what she doesnt ask for, as it will drive her away.
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Yes sir,

Now go back and change the initial topic, because it is wrong...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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