"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Being a Hustler vs. a Great Catch?

aforabi

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In order to improve my DJ skills, I have been approaching girls on the streets at least 4 times a day, and at least 2 hours a day, for the past 8 months.

By this way, I went from "a guy not able to speak to women" to a "guy who is in a LTR with a very cute girl."

And I enjoy pickup stuffs because it puts me out there and makes me learn from my failures. And, of course, I will be approaching tons of girls on the street every week. So, if i spend at least 2 hours doing PU, does that make me "needy"? "hustler?" "a player?", "not a GREAT CATCH (in Pook's eyes)?" :)

You see, when I see a cute girl on the street, I want to challenge myself and go out there and speak to her. That is what a "true" Don Juan does. He goes and approach her. And in my city, there are plenty. However, by doing so, I go into a "hunter" mode, or "hustler" mode, which is then not advised. Maybe I should slow down and go for only the super HOT chicks.

So, how do I balance being a GREAT CATCH and a HUSTLER? Remember, I want to a be GREAT CATCH though, not a player..

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Abi
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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jurry

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Wow that is some dedication.

I'd say you have to just read the individual girl, if you're coming on a bit too strong or too smooth where she thinks you're a player you can pull it back a bit. There is definitely such thing as "beta game". Really depends on the girl and the interaction though..
 

mangotot

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Who cares what Pook thinks. All that matters is your opinion. There are so many ways to reach your goals and if it means cold approaching street grind do it man. Don't give a $hit about what some dude from the net thinks.
 

Suspens

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Hey man where do you live? PM me if you want.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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