Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Being a guy and called "gay" nastily by a female

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I'm 21, work in a grocery store and am being verbally bullied by an 18year old girl at work. She is a stranger from another department but has been calling me "gay" (in a nasty tone - nothing playfull) whilst standing with her female colleagues. I've never spoken to her before, never hit on her, never given her the "eye" or anything to provoke name calling.

She has also called me "loser" and "depressing."

Why would a girl do this to a male stranger at the workplace? Does she secretly like me and wants me to approach her or is she simply being an evil cow ???

P.s I'm not tall or handsome, I'm average looking and she is quite attractive by societies standards: slim and blonde. We all dress in the same uniforms.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm in the same situation except shell flip **** over nothing at all.
And she was training me but she has an attitude like she's my boss.
I don't let her play that **** though so she acts like a bvtch.
Just don't give her any attention.
 
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The Next Sodini said:
I'm 21, work in a grocery store and am being verbally bullied by an 18year old girl at work. She is a stranger from another department but has been calling me "gay" (in a nasty tone - nothing playfull) whilst standing with her female colleagues. I've never spoken to her before, never hit on her, never given her the "eye" or anything to provoke name calling.

She has also called me "loser" and "depressing."

Why would a girl do this to a male stranger at the workplace? Does she secretly like me and wants me to approach her or is she simply being an evil cow ???

P.s I'm not tall or handsome, I'm average looking and she is quite attractive by societies standards: slim and blonde. We all dress in the same uniforms.
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Just call her "ugly", start attacking the way she looks and things about her. I can promise you now you'll destroy her lol.

Regardless though, she's a girl. She probably doesn't even know that she can speak; let alone know what she is saying or why she is saying it.... She obviously has deep issues and feels the need to lash out at the world to try and fix them...
 
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Option 1: Ask her what she has against gay people. Then add, "Why are you homophobic?" Flip the leftist script around on her.

Option 2: Skip Option 1 and just tell the manager.

Edit: Yes, I agree with Atom. You can't do both. If you are going to report her to the manager, don't say anything to her.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mike is right. Always flip the script. If you do, though, you won't be able to report her to the manager as she'll just tell the manager what you've been saying and amplify it 100X.

Does she have a physical flaw that you can zero in on? Whatever you say to her, say it in an unaffected, "James Bond" style. This attitude is more for you than for her.

You can leverage this situation around to your personal growth if you play it smart.
 
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Why not just approach her the next time she says that, face to face, and ask her what the heck her problem is. Tell her if she keeps calling you that, you're going to get her fired.

That should shut her up.

Nothing worse than bullying, especially by females. I've been there, bro. You have to confront it. Avoiding only makes things worse.
 
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OP, I can't help but wonder if your choice of forum name reflects on your behavior toward women, thereby causing unpleasant reactions.

I think it's at least worth consideration.
 
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Atom Smasher said:
OP, I can't help but wonder if your choice of forum name reflects on your behavior toward women, thereby causing unpleasant reactions.

I think it's at least worth consideration.
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Yikes! Great catch by Atom and something that is definitely disconcerting.

Atom, as a mod, is screen name choice something that can be policed around here? There is a world of difference between bad taste and some sort of tribute to a mass murderer -- something I definitely don't want this site associated with.
 
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I would reply with, give me 30 mins in a hotel room with you and we'll see if im gay.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Atom Smasher said:
OP, I can't help but wonder if your choice of forum name reflects on your behavior toward women, thereby causing unpleasant reactions.
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Geeze...I missed that too.

What would possess you to type that in as a username, OP? What the **** is wrong with you?
 
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er.. she clearly doesn't like you.

That said, either ignore her, avoid her, or complain to your boss.
 
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Geeze...I missed that too.

What would possess you to type that in as a username, OP? What the **** is wrong with you?
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Because I get treated ****ty like this by women all the time.

I feel like I'm gonna be like Sodini one day. I hope not.
 
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The Next Sodini said:
Because I get treated ****ty like this by women all the time.

I feel like I'm gonna be like Sodini one day. I hope not.
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Okay. Can we ban this guy and his IP, please? He needs a therapist or institution, not an internet message board.
 
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The Next Sodini said:
Because I get treated ****ty like this by women all the time.

I feel like I'm gonna be like Sodini one day. I hope not.
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Maybe it's something you do. Or maybe it's the kind of people you associate with.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheCWord said:
Okay. Can we ban this guy and his IP, please? He needs a therapist or institution, not an internet message board.
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Banned.
 
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lol @ screen name
 
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oh shat youve done it now. hes goin out to buy guns and ammo
 
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Can someone warn LA Fitness? If it isn't too late already...
 
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