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Senior Don Juan
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culring and hockey
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
3countriesPlan said:I'm in Taiwan. I will be watching the Taiwan Baseball team AKA Chinese Taipei and also the US Basketball team games. I don't think there is any time delay![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Omg, I was sad. After that norwegian guy breaks 2 olympic records he only gets silver behind that japanese guy. Oh well. They are both ****ing beasts, so extremely close...Crazy Asian said:wow WHAT THE FVCKKKKKK!
who just saw the mens 4X100 free relay??!?!?!??!!
OMG jason lezak!
46.06 FVCKING INSANE!!!!!!!
I still can fvcking believe my eyes
i mean WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!
haha yeyeeeee fvck france.
who saw the mens 100 breast?
i feel bad for hansen, but kosuke's 58.9 is insane!!!
first man under 59!!!!!
THIS SH!T's gonna be INSANE!!!!!!!
Oh man the Chinese made the mistake the other day of referring to the Taiwanese team as China- Taipei instead of Chinese-Taipei..Nighthawk said:I couldn't give a rat's ass for any super-dull olympic rubbish except my gf is Taiwanese and I want their baseball team to kick ass.
And Chinese Taipei my arse! They are Taiwanese and that's how they should be referred to.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I like swimming but it makes stuff like this happen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pcb3YeZDmp0Quiksilver said:
I agree, and I wonder if there is some sort of movement out there to clean up the clutter.Quiksilver said:Hmm..
The olympics is however the only chance that swimmers get to make a name for themselves. Tennis players get paid millions of dollars throughout the year at other tournaments, no one gives a sh1t about any of the other big swimming meets. Winning gold at the olympics is not as big a deal as winning a grand slam tournament for tennis players. It is however the highest achievement in swimming.Quiksilver said:Hmm..
I'll start off by saying I respect swimming and most of its competitors.
But, I have a problem with the Swimming events.. For most sports, there are only 3 medals that are all hardfought, take Tennis for instance, it takes almost two weeks to hand out 1 single gold medal. On the other hand, you have swimming where medals seem to be handed out like hotcakes on a daily basis, with some olympians winning upwards of 3-4 medals.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.