suavesuave
Senior Don Juan
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culring and hockey
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
3countriesPlan said:I'm in Taiwan. I will be watching the Taiwan Baseball team AKA Chinese Taipei and also the US Basketball team games. I don't think there is any time delay![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Omg, I was sad. After that norwegian guy breaks 2 olympic records he only gets silver behind that japanese guy. Oh well. They are both ****ing beasts, so extremely close...Crazy Asian said:wow WHAT THE FVCKKKKKK!
who just saw the mens 4X100 free relay??!?!?!??!!
OMG jason lezak!
46.06 FVCKING INSANE!!!!!!!
I still can fvcking believe my eyes
i mean WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!
haha yeyeeeee fvck france.
who saw the mens 100 breast?
i feel bad for hansen, but kosuke's 58.9 is insane!!!
first man under 59!!!!!
THIS SH!T's gonna be INSANE!!!!!!!
Oh man the Chinese made the mistake the other day of referring to the Taiwanese team as China- Taipei instead of Chinese-Taipei..Nighthawk said:I couldn't give a rat's ass for any super-dull olympic rubbish except my gf is Taiwanese and I want their baseball team to kick ass.
And Chinese Taipei my arse! They are Taiwanese and that's how they should be referred to.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I like swimming but it makes stuff like this happen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pcb3YeZDmp0Quiksilver said:
I agree, and I wonder if there is some sort of movement out there to clean up the clutter.Quiksilver said:Hmm..
The olympics is however the only chance that swimmers get to make a name for themselves. Tennis players get paid millions of dollars throughout the year at other tournaments, no one gives a sh1t about any of the other big swimming meets. Winning gold at the olympics is not as big a deal as winning a grand slam tournament for tennis players. It is however the highest achievement in swimming.Quiksilver said:Hmm..
I'll start off by saying I respect swimming and most of its competitors.
But, I have a problem with the Swimming events.. For most sports, there are only 3 medals that are all hardfought, take Tennis for instance, it takes almost two weeks to hand out 1 single gold medal. On the other hand, you have swimming where medals seem to be handed out like hotcakes on a daily basis, with some olympians winning upwards of 3-4 medals.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.