"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Behaviour when Setting Up Date

LMFAO

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I've had some success with online dating. But then at the same time you get stung once in a while by something and you remember again the absolute b!tch behaviour out there.

Some girl sent me a flirt message on OKCupid. She's about a 6 or 7. I thought fine I could go on a date or two with her to bang it. Had a nice back and forth conversation, got her number and told her that I'll message her when I'm back from holiday. It always took her about 6 hours to respond to a message on Whatsapp even though it's clear she read the message, but whatever didn't care.

Got back a couple of days ago. Sent her a message of happy new years and tried to arrange a date with her. She said she's busy during the week but can do Sunday evening. I thought OK great. Then she asked me where do I live (so we could arrange whereabouts to meet), gave her some specific place within London. (hardly a bad or an unwealthy area). Then I look at my Whatsapp within 2 minutes and her picture and her last online has disappeared. She deleted me based on my answer of where I live. WTF. As the old saying goes, you might as well burn the number to the ground. So I phoned her, she didn't answer. Then she phoned back 30 seconds later and asked "who is this?", I answered "from Whatsapp". She said "Oh" and she hang up.

Remember she's the one who flirted with me in the first place. What a fvcking disgusting human being.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is what happens when you pursue women with low interest. Hotness level is irrelevant. Ugly women who want men to chase them are laughable. Who would entertain such women but the most desperate of men? :crackup:

Remember... when girls are into you.. they make things easy for you and they MAKE time for you. They follow your lead. They are submissive. You will feel in control the entire time.

As a rule.. if you have to chase.. you are in the beta b!tch zone. Don't chase, replace. This is why focusing on only one woman is weak. Shows your time is not valuable and you lack abundance.

You should be the one who has to "fit her into your schedule" not the other way around.

Men give their time away to freely. So it is not respected (or even appreciated).
 

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LMFAO said:
She deleted me based on my answer of where I live.
This sucks, I agree. And it's the kind of stab in the back that cannot be healed with the generic "stupid slvt" rants. Two quantums of solace:
1. She weeded herself out early in the process and saved you from a date with a maybe pretty, but shallow person.
2. You can use this experience to further improve your own shopping list for women. Review and refine. All of us have criteria, but some of these are reasonable (shared interests, similar goals in life etc.) while others are just stupid (minimum height, eye color, place of residence within London).
 

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LMFAO said:
I've had some success with online dating. But then at the same time you get stung once in a while by something and you remember again the absolute b!tch behaviour out there.

Some girl sent me a flirt message on OKCupid. She's about a 6 or 7. I thought fine I could go on a date or two with her to bang it. Had a nice back and forth conversation, got her number and told her that I'll message her when I'm back from holiday. It always took her about 6 hours to respond to a message on Whatsapp even though it's clear she read the message, but whatever didn't care.

Got back a couple of days ago. Sent her a message of happy new years and tried to arrange a date with her. She said she's busy during the week but can do Sunday evening. I thought OK great. Then she asked me where do I live (so we could arrange whereabouts to meet), gave her some specific place within London. (hardly a bad or an unwealthy area). Then I look at my Whatsapp within 2 minutes and her picture and her last online has disappeared. She deleted me based on my answer of where I live. WTF. As the old saying goes, you might as well burn the number to the ground. So I phoned her, she didn't answer. Then she phoned back 30 seconds later and asked "who is this?", I answered "from Whatsapp". She said "Oh" and she hang up.

Remember she's the one who flirted with me in the first place. What a fvcking disgusting human being.
Just a thought: Do you live anywhere near her?
 

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JohnnyStorm said:
Just a thought: Do you live anywhere near her?
There's a reasonable possibility we live close by yes. I did ask her where she lives at the end of my answer "what about u?", but then she deleted me. :crazy: For the future I will just say North London and be a little more mysterious. But still that was a bit of a WTF moment, from quite possibly a massive b!tch.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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