"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Before you post a question. Read the freaking DJ bible. 99% of your answers are there

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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At the risk of getting raked over the coals, I don't think pointing people in the direction of the DJ Bible is necessarily the way to go. I think it's way too philosophical and over analytical.
 

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evansblue said:
At the risk of getting raked over the coals, I don't think pointing people in the direction of the DJ Bible is necessarily the way to go. I think it's way too philosophical and over analytical.
Are you sh!ting me mate ? If you can't be stuffed to read the bible or at least the parts that are relevent to your issue then you deserve all the misery and rubbish you get from you current predicament.

Seriously this generation need to realise that sometimes the answers you seek require you to actually put into a little effort and work out the answer on your own using a few philosophical books as guides instead of blatently asking for the right answer like a spoilt child.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Espi said:
The DJB should be questioned...it's good to test everything...
I agree. But, it should be questioned by people who read it and have an understanding of the basics.

This is like telling a 2nd grader that he should question calculus. He wouldn't even know where to begin. The DJB is the culmination of hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of discussions about all of the things that come to mind when we deal with women, and ourselves. For a new person to come in and question the methods without at least reading and understanding them is hubris.

I'm by no means a traditionalist. But, I understand why tradition is so powerful, and in many ways practical.

Long in short, Warrior is trying to highlight the fact that new members generally ask really inane questions that they themselves could answer with 5 minutes of critical thought, or 5 minutes of reading the DJB. Granted, when they first join, they don't know about the DJB - but that's what this post is for.

The DJB is a great resource for simple stuff that can give news guys a sense of direction, and a sense of scope. How their little question reveals bigger questions.

You don't have to agree with all of it - hell, I don't. I think it's way overcomplicated in a lot of places, especially when we get into "analyzing women." For me, that's a huge no-no. I don't analyze sh*t. She wants me, or she don't. That's it.

But, to say that because I don't agree with another point of view doesn't mean it's not worth reading about, or knowing about. You can't say for sure what works best for you until you've tried other methods, and been other places.
 

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You do know if everyone did read the DJB before posting ta thread the activity of this board would go down 90%.
 

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I agree.
While the bible won't have the specific awnser to every question that isn't it's main purpose. It's there to help unlearn all the bs that alot of first timers to the site come here with and get them in the objective mentality necessary to have a fighting chance in the game. It isn't THAT long and will assist in many areas beyond just women.

Instead though so many people show up for the quick fix "I'm a pathetic loser, fix me but it better not be anything that involves work or something I don't wanna hear" What are the vets suppose to say to that?
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
You do know if everyone did read the DJB before posting ta thread the activity of this board would go down 90%.
Espi said:
Is that a good thing?
Yes and no. I don't think the activity would go down 90%. I think it would go down about 30%, and the quality of questions would increase drastically. THAT would be a good thing.
 
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This !!!!!!!!!!^^^^^^^^^^^^^
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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