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And when someone posts a question, point them to the appropriate threads in the bible.
And when someone posts a question, point them to the appropriate threads in the bible.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Are you sh!ting me mate ? If you can't be stuffed to read the bible or at least the parts that are relevent to your issue then you deserve all the misery and rubbish you get from you current predicament.evansblue said:At the risk of getting raked over the coals, I don't think pointing people in the direction of the DJ Bible is necessarily the way to go. I think it's way too philosophical and over analytical.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I agree. But, it should be questioned by people who read it and have an understanding of the basics.Espi said:The DJB should be questioned...it's good to test everything...
PrettyBoyAJ said:You do know if everyone did read the DJB before posting ta thread the activity of this board would go down 90%.
Yes and no. I don't think the activity would go down 90%. I think it would go down about 30%, and the quality of questions would increase drastically. THAT would be a good thing.Espi said:Is that a good thing?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.