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And when someone posts a question, point them to the appropriate threads in the bible.
And when someone posts a question, point them to the appropriate threads in the bible.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Are you sh!ting me mate ? If you can't be stuffed to read the bible or at least the parts that are relevent to your issue then you deserve all the misery and rubbish you get from you current predicament.evansblue said:At the risk of getting raked over the coals, I don't think pointing people in the direction of the DJ Bible is necessarily the way to go. I think it's way too philosophical and over analytical.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree. But, it should be questioned by people who read it and have an understanding of the basics.Espi said:The DJB should be questioned...it's good to test everything...
PrettyBoyAJ said:You do know if everyone did read the DJB before posting ta thread the activity of this board would go down 90%.
Yes and no. I don't think the activity would go down 90%. I think it would go down about 30%, and the quality of questions would increase drastically. THAT would be a good thing.Espi said:Is that a good thing?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.