"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Before you date... (a discussion)

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This is a discussion about what, as men, should we do with ourselves BEFORE we start dating.

There is an amazing ammount of information on here about dating women, seduction, even self-improvement, but i've noticed this recent trend (at least on the 'Tips' section) about getting your life together first - even withholding from dating any girls to get your life on track.

What are you guys' thoughts on getting your life together before you start dating women? Do you think this is a requirement so that you don't seek your acceptance from women? What does this involve (exerice? meditation? eating right? what..?) How long should you take to get your life together before you try to bring another girl into your world?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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i think you must be able to look yourself in the mirror and be able to smirk at yourself tihking"im the shi+"
you must be able to accept who you are and be comfortable with who you are in any situation.
 
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I think this maybe different for everyone.

Personally, I just basicly started focussing on getting my life together but it never stopped me from dating. I used the dating to learn and to practice.

Instead of looking at every girl and trying to either sack her or get into a LTR, I basicly just had fun with them and trying out some of the things I learned. In my case this helped improve my confidence with girls but like I said, it might be different for other guys.
 
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Depends whether you justify your confidence and self-worth by external factors and accomplishments. If you have unconditional confidence and self-image "I exist therefore I'm confident" then you don't need much prerequisites.
 
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it's simple... live a happy life without girls... until girls become an addition to your life not your life itself
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Experience, including dating, will help you get your life together. Combining the information here and relating it to your experiences will help you grow and improve how you handle life. Remember, a LARGE part of a man's life consists of women.

To get your life together, you should be focussing on all aspects of it. This includes dealing with your fears, health morals, values, career, women, the list goes on and on.

If you put off dating until you get your life together, you're never gonna get laid. Self-improvement can last a lifetime.
 
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