"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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been seeing a girl for 6 months....

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everything was great or so i thought...she sends me this msg out the blue....

'listen aint shown it much but ive been thinking dunno if this is working, sumthin about you pushes me away, a boy is supposed to make a girl feel gud about herself and you dnt...I feel like a walkova even though i think your amazing sorry x'


what the hell does she mean by this??

help because i really dnt wanna blow it i like her alot

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I would say that she is breaking up with you.
The good thing for you is that she seems like she is willing to discuss about it because she was open about the reasons why the relationship doesn't work for her, and she took the time to tell you that you're a great guy.

I say meet her as soon as you both have time and have a nice talk about this. Let her do the talking and ask her to explain what she means when she says that you don't make her feel good about herself. If it's stuff that you can fix, tell her you'll work on that because you think you've got a nice relationship and you think you guys have a lot of potential together.

See her reaction, and if she's willing to continue the relationship then you can keep her for some time.

Having said all that, i still think that she is breaking up with you and your chances seem pretty slim to keep her at this moment. But have a talk with her and see for yourself. Good luck budy!
 
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I'd say she's breaking up with you, even if she doesn't fully realise it yet, which puts you in a good spot to do it first! Ha!
But I don't know, I wouldn't even be interested in a girl who spells like that, personally.
 
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Quick question; what made you believe things were going well? What exactly was so great about the relationship?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Quick question; what made you believe things were going well? What exactly was so great about the relationship?
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Well its kind of weird but i know why she feels like a walkover...We are not exclusively together as a couple but i go to hers quite often n would have sex with her....to me that was fine and i dont wanna change nothing...i thought it was all good because you know we talked, went out together had sex, you know....then out two friends start being exclusive to eachother n she changes or that might be in my head i dunno...:down:

am gonna go around l8r on tonight anyway n talk it out..she told me she doesnt wanna stop seein me but i dunno maybe i should end it?
 
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oh yeah and she also told me she sent that message because she was confused???

damn woman:box:
 
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oh yeah and she also told me she sent that message because she was confused???

damn woman:box:
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Wow have I heard this bull**** before.

This is what I did when I got the "I'm confused about us" line. I said to her.
"If you're confused, maybe we should just take a week off. That way it will give you time to clear your head and figure out what you want. Call me in a week and let me know what you decide" *click*

This pretty much subtly tells her "If you're going to behave like that piss off, I don't need you, I'm not needy, I'm not clingy."

Some dudes wouldn't give her a week, but I usually do. Women thrive on attention, and if you suddenly stop giving it to them, they begin to panic and beg you to come back into their life.

I've done this twice, and two days later they usually call and want to talk. Don't let them beat around the bush though, the first question that should come out of your mouth is. "Have you decided?"
 
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Bro, bro, bro, broooooo.

your not in deep shi1t yet.

set up a day to meet with her and talk. No ones perfect and she prbly realizes that, therefor she told you whats bothering her about you.

easy
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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1878 said:
Well its kind of weird but i know why she feels like a walkover...We are not exclusively together as a couple but i go to hers quite often n would have sex with her....to me that was fine and i dont wanna change nothing...i thought it was all good because you know we talked, went out together had sex, you know....then out two friends start being exclusive to eachother n she changes or that might be in my head i dunno...:down:

am gonna go around l8r on tonight anyway n talk it out..she told me she doesnt wanna stop seein me but i dunno maybe i should end it?
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So you felt that the relationship was great because you were getting what you wanted from it (basically sex). Do you have any idea what she wants (expects)?
 
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well i've been to talk and it went well....she told me that basically i was acting too ****y and putting on a front to her AND my friends!

i was making out she was chasing me all the time and she didnt like being dissed this way....had a goooood make up session :D

any tips on how to play it now??
 
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1878 said:
well i've been to talk and it went well....she told me that basically i was acting too ****y and putting on a front to her AND my friends!

i was making out she was chasing me all the time and she didnt like being dissed this way....had a goooood make up session :D

any tips on how to play it now??
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I think this is quite common. Women can sometimes feel neglected or undermined, or generally don't feel their emotional needs are being met. When you are in a relationship, it's time to drop the ****y and funny and neghits. They're not needed, you got the girl.

My advice is to say or do something to make her feel special every so often. You dont have to go scattering rose petals around the room or writing poetry, but pay attention to little things. When she gets dressed up to go out, tell her she looks gorgeous tonight. Send her the odd text and say you miss her or can't wait to see her.

Just to explain a common misunderstanding on this forum. There is nothing wrong with compliments, gentlemanly and romantic behaviour UNLESS you are doing it to persuade a woman to like you. In that context it is desperate. However, if you've been dating for a while or you're in a relationship, these gestures are usually very appreciated! It's all about context...like most things.
 
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she broke up with you in a text message and mispelled common words like : don't know
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walking away

i find it very rude and dishonest. i think she has met someone else personally.
 
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The Truth said:
I think this is quite common. Women can sometimes feel neglected or undermined, or generally don't feel their emotional needs are being met. When you are in a relationship, it's time to drop the ****y and funny and neghits. They're not needed, you got the girl.

My advice is to say or do something to make her feel special every so often. You dont have to go scattering rose petals around the room or writing poetry, but pay attention to little things. When she gets dressed up to go out, tell her she looks gorgeous tonight. Send her the odd text and say you miss her or can't wait to see her.

Just to explain a common misunderstanding on this forum. There is nothing wrong with compliments, gentlemanly and romantic behaviour UNLESS you are doing it to persuade a woman to like you. In that context it is desperate. However, if you've been dating for a while or you're in a relationship, these gestures are usually very appreciated! It's all about context...like most things.
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you know what i was so into this whole dj stuff i realise i almost ****ed this one up...thanks alot man for pointing this out :up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Penkitten is spot on. Text message break up, saying you aren't offering what she needs etc, which leaves the question..

If she says you don't fulfill her, who is?

Possibly someone else. Hence the cowardly attempt at breaking up without doing it to your face.

Regardless, her attempt at ditching you was really rude.
 
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Personally I think the text was a bluff. It was a way of letting you know that something serious needs to change.

That's how I read it anyway.
 
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1878 said:
you know what i was so into this whole dj stuff i realise i almost ****ed this one up...thanks alot man for pointing this out :up:
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I have done it myself too. I've read about a lot of people on this forum doing it too. Hope that helps.

Personally I think the text was a bluff. It was a way of letting you know that something serious needs to change. That's how I read it anyway.
 
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1878 said:
you know what i was so into this whole dj stuff i realise i almost ****ed this one up...thanks alot man for pointing this out :up:
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I have done it myself too. I've read about a lot of people on this forum doing it too. Hope that helps!
 
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