Before I start, I do know that most of the people reading this will have a "you asked for it" reaction... I know, but it doesn't help 
So, it's basically a missed your shot story.
It all started years ago, when I met this girl at the University. Went out on a date, but I wasn't really feeling it, so I let it pass. But, we bumped into each other time to time, met up... sometimes drinks, sometimes movies... Each time I would get very clear signals, but didn't act on them.
I wasn't playing, or trying to be a jerk, I really wanted to be friends, she is a very interesting person, and I enjoy the company (and this where you say "you don't do that to a girl, you jerk", I know...). We never got to the real friend phase, we would se each other a couple of times, and than nothing for 6 months or a year...
About 8 months ago, we met up again (now both out of the University...) and somehow an idea came up we might take some dancing lesson together. And we did. Even at this point, I think that had I tried, I would have got her... But I didn't.
This time, however, we kept seeing each other. And all of a sudden, something snapped in my head (or heart, or... well wherever it snaps). Unfortunately, by that time, the signals were gone. Quite the opposite. The "friend" word came up (in plan conversation, not an advance, but still, before she would make just absurd semantic constructions to avoid saying friends), it's gotten fairly difficult to see her outside of the dancing lessons (before she would completely rearrange her life just for a cup of coffee)...
Almost like she pulled a "Crazy Ivan" on me (pulling away from a person, sometimes works on girls, never heard of work on guy).
The problem is, now I'm nuts about her. I know her relatively well, I's been going on for some time now, so not a stupid crush which is about to just go away.
So, I know, I missed my shot.
Right now, it seems like we're headed for a conversation after which we won't be seeing each other anymore at all (But than again, I might be to much of realist, you know the "This is half full", "This is half empty", "I think this is piss" poster").
Any ideas if there is something I might try before I go and FUBAR things? I'v got the patience, if there is a long-shot...
So, it's basically a missed your shot story.
It all started years ago, when I met this girl at the University. Went out on a date, but I wasn't really feeling it, so I let it pass. But, we bumped into each other time to time, met up... sometimes drinks, sometimes movies... Each time I would get very clear signals, but didn't act on them.
I wasn't playing, or trying to be a jerk, I really wanted to be friends, she is a very interesting person, and I enjoy the company (and this where you say "you don't do that to a girl, you jerk", I know...). We never got to the real friend phase, we would se each other a couple of times, and than nothing for 6 months or a year...
About 8 months ago, we met up again (now both out of the University...) and somehow an idea came up we might take some dancing lesson together. And we did. Even at this point, I think that had I tried, I would have got her... But I didn't.
This time, however, we kept seeing each other. And all of a sudden, something snapped in my head (or heart, or... well wherever it snaps). Unfortunately, by that time, the signals were gone. Quite the opposite. The "friend" word came up (in plan conversation, not an advance, but still, before she would make just absurd semantic constructions to avoid saying friends), it's gotten fairly difficult to see her outside of the dancing lessons (before she would completely rearrange her life just for a cup of coffee)...
Almost like she pulled a "Crazy Ivan" on me (pulling away from a person, sometimes works on girls, never heard of work on guy).
The problem is, now I'm nuts about her. I know her relatively well, I's been going on for some time now, so not a stupid crush which is about to just go away.
So, I know, I missed my shot.
Right now, it seems like we're headed for a conversation after which we won't be seeing each other anymore at all (But than again, I might be to much of realist, you know the "This is half full", "This is half empty", "I think this is piss" poster").
Any ideas if there is something I might try before I go and FUBAR things? I'v got the patience, if there is a long-shot...