Been off and on messaging a girl for 2 weeks trying to get her out.

[Shootin4Dreams]

I tell her about playing pool and she just asks me questions about it then when i finally mention her to join me for a few rounds she ignores me. How do you go about this? She lives 40 minutes away doesnt make sense really.

 

[devilkingx2]

if a girl kept asking you to hang out with her and you ignored every request to hang out would her what would that mean?

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

Ok but she keep asking me questions asked if im okay with her having a kid and sends 3 to 4 messages at a time

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

I asked once to join me for pool

 

[devilkingx2]

give it some time, if she never comes up with any reason for why she didn't respond(assuming that she normally responds quickly) then it's safe to assume she doesn't want to go.

Ok but she keep asking me questions asked if im okay with her having a kid and sends 3 to 4 messages at a time

woah dude, you THAT desperate?

 

[Rambo92]

give it some time, if she never comes up with any reason for why she didn't respond(assuming that she normally responds quickly) then it's safe to assume she doesn't want to go.



woah dude, you THAT desperate?

He might mean that she has a kid already and wondering if he is okay with dating someone who is a single mother.

 

[dustmuffin]

She wants a texting buddy.....If she wanted to go she would answer. I would move along. Don't fixate on this woman.

 

[marmel75]

I tell her about playing pool and she just asks me questions about it then when i finally mention her to join me for a few rounds she ignores me. How do you go about this? She lives 40 minutes away doesnt make sense really.

LMAO...how the hell do post about you banging a girl in a car over the weekend that you just met at a club and then come back and post this? Something isn't right...you cannot be this clueless after you just pulled a chick from the club and banged her in your car, unless that was totally made up.

What doesn't make sense is this post. She obviously isn't interested, find someone else to invite out.

 

[marmel75]

I never noticed it's the same guy...

Still, as if you have never turned beta after a one night stand.

This guy needs to learn better, but I don't suspect a troll.

This is probably the 10th post regarding something similar...how many times does he need to be told the same thing?

 

[Arcturus]

Try "hey I saw this really amazing thing the other day and it is sooo sooo perfect for you, you have to see this, you will LOVE it!, are you free __ or ___ next week?" (be hyper intense and all excited, like it's the best thing in the world). When she asks what it is, just dodge the questions, "no don't want to ruin the surprise, gotta see it in person, too amazing to tell over the phone." Now shes sort of stuck, women can't stand not knowing what this amazing thing is and her imagination will run wild. She'll MAKE time to come out. If she says she can't, then you play it off like its no big deal, "yeah no worries, will save it for next time", but again you don't tell her. When she does come out, it can be something as minor as the most amazing restaurant ever.

I've used this a ton, no one ever complains over what it turns out to be, because by the time they come out, they are having a great time after a few drinks anyways. Very few women will turn down the invite, and the ones that do, find it eats away at them, until they ask YOU out in a week or two.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Take a hint and a 20 minute radius rule unless of course they are giving off are DTF vibes. In your case she is definitely not.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

I don't have the most savvy text skills. But i got her to to agree to meet on the weekend she told me she can't drive too far she lives 40 minutes away. I basically told her peace out and i don't deal with flaking and ambitious with stuff going on.

 

[devilkingx2]

I don't have the most savvy text skills. But i got her to to agree to meet on the weekend she told me she can't drive too far she lives 40 minutes away. I basically told her peace out and i don't deal with flaking and ambitious with stuff going on.

40 minutes away from you or 40 minutes away from your destination?

 

[El Payaso]

Stop wasting your time.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

She lives 40 minutes away she said.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Messaging her on and off? I think three strikes and you're out is a good rule to work by. I went out with a hottie a few times then the sea-change. Texting her once to arrange the date, she says she busy with NO COUNTER OFFER. The writing on the wall here, leave it for a week, text again. She replied, but is once again busy. Pretty much realize I've lost this one. Send one last text a week later, get the reply I expect, and then just tell her to call sometime.

In the past, I'd get all worked up. But now I'll only reciprocate the amount of emotion she invests.

 

[devilkingx2]

Messaging her on and off? I think three strikes and you're out is a good rule to work by. I went out with a hottie a few times then the sea-change. Texting her once to arrange the date, she says she busy with NO COUNTER OFFER. The writing on the wall here, leave it for a week, text again. She replied, but is once again busy. Pretty much realize I've lost this one. Send one last text a week later, get the reply I expect, and then just tell her to call sometime.

In the past, I'd get all worked up. But now I'll only reciprocate the amount of emotion she invests.

personally i like to spend more time on each girl than most before i ask her out(i wait until either i'm reasonably sure she'll say yes OR i'm reasonably sure i don't have a chance), but with me it's one and done. if she doesn't say yes and doesn't give a counteroffer the first time then i'm out, that's it for me.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

personally i like to spend more time on each girl than most before i ask her out(i wait until either i'm reasonably sure she'll say yes OR i'm reasonably sure i don't have a chance), but with me it's one and done. if she doesn't say yes and doesn't give a counteroffer the first time then i'm out, that's it for me.

Yes, always good to build a little rapport first. I have no problem getting them out, problem is keeping them going out with me. Either I have to improve myself or my skills, or go for women that I have a more realistic chance of getting.

 

[devilkingx2]

Yes, always good to build a little rapport first. I have no problem getting them out, problem is keeping them going out with me. Either I have to improve myself or my skills, or go for women that I have a more realistic chance of getting.

i'd say that if they agree to go out with you in the first place then they're clearly not out of your reach. you probably just do something that messes up the first date (unless they just go out with you because you like to buy fancy dinners for a first date or something)

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

i'd say that if they agree to go out with you in the first place then they're clearly not out of your reach. you probably just do something that messes up the first date (unless they just go out with you because you like to buy fancy dinners for a first date or something)

Yes, I am doing something right as am getting dates from say half the women I approach. I try to be selective in who I approach. I think I just have to be a lot more careful with the kino here. They call it 'skinship'. Of course, all women are different. I think it is just about learning how to read them better.