Been married for 3 months, wife does not want to consumate marriage

[Thorninmyside]

If this is real and you really are naive enough not to try before you buy, you're either dealing with a damaged girl who grew up with uncle touchy making her think sex is dirty, or you've got a scammer using you for immigration purposes. And not even a good one. There are plenty of foreign girls who would still take a serious pounding for a better life, and you got the one who won't put out.

I'd deffo go for annulment or at least the serious threat of it. She's deflecting by making you think you're a bad husband for pressuring.

 

[Fireballs]

''Fvck me or fvck you.''

 

[nyc123]

yeah dude, you really have to settle this issue. she's just brushing it aside. and making you feel bad for bringing it up.

 

[Asasione]

This story honestly seems like trolling. You married her after dating her for how long? Is she a virgin? Is she affectionate besides sex which you claim she refuses, does she do oral or anything else? Why would bringing it up cause you to lose her? Any sane person gets married they have a right to want to have sex with their partner, yeah you can't force issues and jump her but I'd damn sure make it known I am getting some sex or we are getting an annulment on grounds of marrying a visa fisher or just a plain defective wife. How are you supposed to start a family? Dude if you ain't trolling bring that sh** up and make your stance, you're the man in the relationship, else cheat or get a pro and get it over with

 

[hudpes]

The other thing is that she is in the United States on a temporary work visa. Which makes me suspicious now. Is she only using me a for a green card? It is very unusual for couples not to consummate their marriage, but I also have a close friend who's been married for 12 years, and he is also a virgin, so it might be more common than we think.

Idiots wasting other people's time are more common than we think.

 

[norm]

So I asked her some serious questions:

"Why do we not consummate our marriage?"

She said "In my country, we do not do such things"

What about having children? She said "There are other ways".

She phoned up one of her friends, and her friend also reiterated to me

"we do not do such things in our country, it is not normal"

I asked both of them whether she was "using me for a green card".

And they said "no", "you must continue in marriage and not forsake your vows because if you do, there will be a penalty for such things"

Now I am very worried, if I divorce her, what kind of penalty are they speaking of?

Will she ruin me financially? Will some giant Russian dude come after me?

it sounded very intimidating. I did not expect this happen. When we were dating, she simply told me she was waiting for marriage. Now that we are married, she is telling me all these things.

 

[Tictac]

Both of these women are full of sh*t.

Almost as much as you.

 

[Greasy Pig]

You're being played big time (or you're playing us).
Whatever you do, do not grant her access to your bank accounts and for fvcks sake, grow some balls and end this charade. She and her friend probably have a string of ex husbands they've fleeced. Seek an annulment and don't be so desperate to get married next time.
This story really defies belief.

 

[sph21]

So I asked her some serious questions:

"Why do we not consummate our marriage?"

She said "In my country, we do not do such things"

What about having children? She said "There are other ways".

This is like a futuristic movie where they are banned of having s3x. We aren't there yet.

I don't blame you if you can't see this thing clearly. Your emotions are holding you back right now.

If she really loves you, then she will let you touch her. Besides, the purpose of having a family is not just having kids. That's to shallow.

If she doesn't trust you that much, imagine of what will happen in next years if you keep on doing this (by being too nice).

The penalty that she was talking about, I believe it is a religious thing. Stop worrying too much about the consequences that will come to her. She made a decision, she must be responsible for it. This is your life, you decide what's best for you. It's better to be alone rather than living in hell.

I was going to tell you what to do but on second thought, I believe you know how to solve your own problems.

 

[Tictac]

These chicks are from Remulak.

 

[norm]

This is like a futuristic movie where they are banned of having s3x. We aren't there yet.

I don't blame you if you can't see this thing clearly. Your emotions are holding you back right now.

If she really loves you, then she will let you touch her. Besides, the purpose of having a family is not just having kids. That's to shallow.

If she doesn't trust you that much, imagine of what will happen in next years if you keep on doing this (by being too nice).

The penalty that she was talking about, I believe it is a religious thing. Stop worrying too much about the consequences that will come to her. She made a decision, she must be responsible for it. This is your life, you decide what's best for you. It's better to be alone rather than living in hell.

I was going to tell you what to do but on second thought, I believe you know how to solve your own problems.

this whole thing is really making me feel sad.

I thought about cheating on her today, it entered my mind for a split second.

but then I came to my senses.

I do not know what to do.

I am so confused!

 

[Hmm]

Divorce time.

 

[norm]

Divorce time.

It is really such a deal breaker that it has come to this?

 

[Skyline]

It is really such a deal breaker that it has come to this?

Are you that blind?

She's clearly using you for either her green card and or your bank.

 

[bcollarmechanic]

What country is she from? Russia? If this is true leave her! Don't let her threaten you to stay with her!

If this is true this is all for a green card or your bank account

She's not having sex with you because she's already married in Russia

When she gets her passport she's going to have you go back to Russia with her to see her family and have you killed while there, its a real thing they do, just do me a favor and ask her if she would want you to go back to Russia with her

 

[norm]

What country is she from? Russia? If this is true leave her! Don't let her threaten you to stay with her!

If this is true this is all for a green card or your bank account

She's not having sex with you because she's already married in Russia

When she gets her passport she's going to have you go back to Russia with her to see her family and have you killed while there, its a real thing they do, just do me a favor and ask her if she would want you to go back to Russia with her

Yes, she is from Russia!

I asked her if she wanted me to come back to Russia with her to see her family, and she said, "yes, after a while we will go".

I asked her if it was safe for me there, she said "why you ask these questions?"

 

[Tictac]

Norm,

You've been had.

Get out of this marriage.

NOW!

 

[Masculinity]

Don't feed the troll.

 

[norm]

I am going to bed tonight, in my separate bed. Good night everyone

I am so lonely I could cry

 

[bigneil]

Sounds like torture, and a lesson for anyone who thinks marriage leads to sex. Try living with them first.

Some good news: by law, in most states you can legally divorce a spouse without consequences if they don't have sex a certain number of times per year. It's called Spousal Abuse.