(Been here about 2 years)A special question

[Double_Diamonds]

This is a special question I wouldnt normally ask. BTW i've been here a few years, and I've read the bible....numerous times. I've tryed to do the Boot Camp, but i always drift away from it. I'm 14, im not an AFC anymore but im not a Don Juan YET. If you could help me in general that would be awesome (tell me: [email protected]) but anyways....

My situation: I am planning on asking a girl to be my girlfriend. But I don't have a specific date to ask her to, and I can't make one because I have no transportation. Is it okay to just ask her to be my girlfriend and start going out.....or do I absolutely have to be specific.

And here's something I've always sucked at: asking a girl to be my GF, even after dating a while.....asking to be my GF is awkward. Some tips?

P.S. I havent been on a date with here before.

 

[masteralios]

Boy oh Boy

If you go out with a girl a few times u do NOT ask her to be ur girlfriend

U will just know when ur a couple

You'll get to the stage where u cut off ur ties with the other women on the side and just focus on her


BUT asking her to be ur GF after a couple of dates is just AFC

 

[LikRetsam]

I'm sorry but the previous poster has no idea what he's talking about.

You are exclusive (boyfriend and girlfriend) once you both explicitly agree on it. Period.

Give us some info about your past with her, where you are in the dating game. It's okay to ask chicks to be exclusive but I prefer not to. It is always the indication of high interest when they ask YOU out. In my honest opinion, you may want to jus tplay your game until she does it. I am a ladies man naturally so have no problem waiting as I have numerous f*ckbuddies in my signle periods. If you really want the sugar go for it but please post some details!

 

[Double_Diamonds]

well LikRetsam I'm not very far with her......at all. I haven't gotten her number, and we've never been on a date (i have no transportation). Basically the reason I want to ask her to be my GF is so I don't blow it with her and have her call me "friend". I don't want that, and I need to prevent it. Would showing my interest more help, she doesnt realize that I'm interested (which is a mistake). So what do you think than.

 

[LikRetsam]

You know, this could one day work. Just remember, and for the rest of your life in all domains, there is a time for everything. As you can clearly see but maybe don't want to tell yourself is that it is not time yet!

You can not simply ask a girl to be your girlfriend when you have so little going for you! You would not eat your eggs right after putting them on the pan, you would eat them when they are damn well ready.

Depending on how far away she lives, you don't need a car to have dates. Public transportation or good old walking is fine. It doesn't need to be anywhere special, coffee is fine and so forth.

Are you 2 at the same school?

Please give me some more info to work with here. All I can say for now is that it is clearly not time to go for the kill yet. You need to play your game, get her hooked and interrested first. Your chances of her saying yes are just about as high as your chances to find 100 dollars on the street.

You know the game, you know how the world turns. You gotta have some major fun with her while not keeping it platonic. That means kino. Just have fun really. Stop thinking about getting in her pants and just have fun.
If she's at the same school, spend lunch with her or ask her to go on a walk after school one day.

anyways, give me some more info and I'll try to help more.

Lik

 

[masteralios]

thats not what i meant Likeretsam

what i meant was

you mite bring it up once after several dates like "so are we officially going out, or can i still chase my other chiks"

but u wont say somethin like "so do u want to be my girlfriend then" cos then u will sound desperate

theres a difference

 

[Hot Ice]

Asking her to become your girlfriend isn't a way to solve problems.

Let her bring it up.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by masteralios
thats not what i meant Likeretsam

what i meant was

you mite bring it up once after several dates like "so are we officially going out, or can i still chase my other chiks"

but u wont say somethin like "so do u want to be my girlfriend then" cos then u will sound desperate

theres a difference

Sorry for misunderstanding!

Asking her to become your girlfriend isn't a way to solve problems. Let her bring it up.

True

 

[Omega]

You see...when a man and a woman..
Kidding!

Anyways, you have to realize that all this he says she says bull**** stops after high school. No one asks anyone out to be their girlfriend or whatever, you just hook up. Simple as that.

"Hey, I'm headed downtown come this Sunday, you can tag along if you want, it'll be fun "

She says yes, or no. Simple as that. Isn't that alot better then:

"HI! I HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOU AND I WANT YOU TO BE MY GIRLFRIEND! YES, YOU'VE BEEN CHOSEN TO BE MY GIRLFRIEND! PLEASE SAY YES! PLEASE!"

So, the moral of this post which has been created off of caffine high is: when a man and a woman..kidding . Don't ask her to be your girlfriend or whatever, just stick with it. If your going places and doing things (going to the zoo of course you sick pervert), then you'll know when your a "couple".

 

[Double_Diamonds]

LikRetsam and the rest of you, I'm glad you're helping me, Thanks.

Well, LikRetsam, we live about 30 miles away. I don't think I'll walk. But when you asked if we went to the same school, you gave me an idea. We go to the same school, and she lives in the town the school is in (let's call it "schooltown"). I on the other hand, live 30 miles away. BUT, our school has a bus that leaves after school at 3:05 (end of school), and a late bus (5:30). I could walk her home one day and than hang around at school for a while....quite a while lol. Maybe I could go to the weightroom in that time! Sweet!

What do you think? If you want more detail, fell free to say so.

P.S. It's not a problem with me at all, but is there any special advice because her dad is a priest?

 

[Double_Diamonds]

The rest of the struggeling DJS and I need this post. I think it'll bring up a good convo about keeping Interest Levels up.