big weezy said:
this is good, how should you say this above, in a joking tone or a serious tone?
a tone that she can't really read... something in between... she can't know if you're serious or not.
if you sound too serious - she may question your sexuality.
if you sound like you're joking too much - she won't take it serious.
big weezy said:
and what reaction should you be expecting etc? i.e. if this reaction this means that, if that reaction means sh1t test.
most women will put something like that through a filter. even if she would love to do a 3some with you and him - she will have up her ASD (anti-slut defenses). So what she says isn't so important as how she reacts the instant you say it.
I've used it twice myself.
First time, the woman made a face like she was disgusted by the idea and said "absolutely not".... When i said, "why not?" she replied "if i were ever going to do a 3some - the other person would have to be hot." ... I then quickly took the conversation into a 2 female 3some using my knowledge of how most women "will try it" but only "if the other girl isn't as hot as me."
What i learned: She didn't find the other guy to be sexually desirable. - She may be open to a 3some though.
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The second time i used it, the woman got annoyed with me. Said, "why is everything a joke to you? Can't you be serious?" (remember, i wasn't using a joking tone)
This told me that she wanted a reaction out of me! Why does she care if i take her bringing up another guy and her going out serious? The only thing i can come up with is that she brought up this other guy and her going out to make me jealous - when she got an opposite reaction to that - it p!ssed her off.
What i learned: It was a sh!t test. It was also her trying to provoke a specific reaction (either anger or neediness out of me).
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Don't worry about you response to her reaction; just focus on hers.
Obviously if her face lights up and she says "yeah he's hot. I'd love to" - then you either next her, or be happy you've just found yourself a swinging partner.
That's the fear a lot of guys have with using something like this... That she'll say yes, or use it as justification to fvck other guys.
But #1 - if she says yes - you found out your answer and can move accordingly.
#2 - If you understand how temptation works - you won't worry too much about her seeing this as an open door to mess around. Think of fidelity as the apple in the garden of eden.
God told woman (no, im not religious, but this story is very fitting) - you can eat anything except that apple... And eve said, "oh that tree right over there? I can eat anything else, except fruit from that tree???? I see.... hmmmmmm...."
and then with a little persuasion....
CRUNCH!
You want to avoid making other men forbidden fruit! By asking for a 3some, you're showing her you do not care about this other man; and you are taking away any excitement she may get out of seeing him.
As someone else once said: "If you tell a woman she can fvck a whole football team but she cannot wear those red socks - you can be sure she will not fvck the football team but she will wear the red socks."