lifemisspent said:
She went out for a coffee with a guy friend. I have heard this guys name before , she has known him for some time and he is her pharmacist.
I had a boys night out last night, so after I told her about my night it was then that she told me what she did last night. I just blew it off and didnt say anything, almost like I didnt hear her.
I learned this from someone i respect greatly.
When in situations like this - say something like, "is he hot? want to do a threesome with him?"... then... WATCH HER REACTION!
You'll learn if it's a sh!t test or genuine interest from her to him.
And at that point - you move accordingly.
lifemisspent said:
She's most likely getting bored with your relationship and is using this guy for one of 2 reasons:
1) To get new excitement from him.
2) To get new excitement from you, by using him to make you jealous.
Honestly, i'd rather it be #1, because #2 means you're with a manipulative drama seeking woman. #1 just means you've failed at some point to maintain excitement and she's looking for it elsewhere.
lifemisspent said:
What if she does it again ?
Start thinking about soft nexting her if you can't handle it (i can personally handle my women doing whatever, but that's just me.)
Soft nexting = you start playing the field again, keep her around, but downgrade her to FB status while trying to find someone to replace her (this will only work if you actually are looking for someone to replace her.)
lifemisspent said:
I totally diasgree of " friendships " between attached women and men ( I dont know if he is attached or not )
To me - this is pretty weak mindset and it is rooted in insecurity. But it's common and typical among men and women who see their significant other as property.
I would say that you should have made this clear from day 1 (via storytelling) but here's the sad reality most guys can't accept:
If you tell a woman you don't approve of women who do a certain thing - all that ensures is that you won't hear about it if she decides to do that thing.
If you tell a woman not to do something or not to see someone - you can pretty much bank on her seeing that person or doing that thing, and now it'll be 10 times more exciting!
lifemisspent said:
We've been dating for six months, the word love has never been exchanged mind you and I will never say that first.
hmmm.... this can very well be a sh!t test by her to see if you "love" her or not (or she could really want his **** in her mouth).
lifemisspent said:
I have the upper hand in this relationship, she asks to see me way more than I ask to see her etc etc............
Wow! Am i really the only one who saw this?
Man, listen.... Few people understand this concept - but if the woman is always asking to see you that much - she is taking the leadership role in the relationship.
When she asks you to do something - how often are you available for it?
When you ask her to do something - how often is she available for it?
one of those answers should be, "rarely". The other should be, "always".