"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Been dating this girl for almost four months... no sex yet.

MatureDJ

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I find it interesting that folks here deride women who go on the cοck carousel, but then when confronted with a woman who turns down someone as a horse on that carousel, she's got problems.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was once with a woman who took a bout 1-1/2 months to crack. We would hang out by lying in bed (clothed) in the spooning position. I would just let myself get an erection and press it right on her butt crack. Eventually she just said, "OK, it's time for you to put in it", and we disrobed and I put it in that position.
 

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The difference between 4-6 weeks and 16 weeks can be monumental. It's not a similar comparison to make.

By 16 weeks, you've seen her her at least 15-20 times.
Like Rollo has said before, when someone makes you wait that long, it usually isn't worth it.

I've been one to wait before, and I agree... unless it was a virgin.
Even then, it's only somewhat justifiable if you are adequately spinning plates.

I wouldn't even consider myself "dating" someone if no sex had happened yet. At 4 months, I'd just consider her Plate Z and someone to spend time with, not my first option.
 

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Let's use the celebrity maxim and close this case.

Earlier I said she wouldn't make George Clooney wait 4 months because she's not ready. She's just not interested in the OP sexually. If she was, she wouldn't have doubts about being ready.

Now, let's say any of you guys began dating Kate Upton, Shakira, or Katy Perry. Would any of you wait 4 months because "you ain't ready yet"? And yet still date them? If any of you said yes, your delusional ass doesn't deserve to date hot chicks. I know that if they were ready for the dik, I'm gonna give it to them. Any sane man would too. Because they know they have to handle their business, or hear of another man doing so (doing her in her 3 moist holes) behind his back. And then she becomes cold and distant until she drops him (into the friendzone)! :yes:

Things should always be moving forward. Standing still or taking it slow is just as bad as going backwards. And things are always going forwards or backwards. Like it or not. Judge nismo's ruling.

Case closed.
 

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I realize in this day and age false rape charges are a concern and the definition of rape is not taking no as no the very first time it's said... but have you considered powering through and applying some pressure. You know telling her you're horny and you want to **** even after she says no. Asking her to at least give you a bj and waving your **** around in her face. Also if you have a talk don't make it about why she won't have sex yet. Find out if she is a virgin and if she's not a virgin find out if she likes sex and how frequently.

You probably need to spin other plates and you shouldn't have given her the relationship status till you to were ****ing. Live and learn. Cheat on her and next time don't ****ing make a girl you aren't ****ing your exclusive gf.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Brutal.
I'll wait 3 dates, if I have to.

You have already relinquished power and excepted her terms, so you're on the back foot already. You need to change your relationship status and go cold on her. She will come after you, at which point you will have regained some power and can lay down some ground rules.
It's not a relationship if you are not having sex and clearly annoyed by this.

Oh, and stop paying for everything too.
 
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