"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bedding the BPD chick

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I know this is an old topic but Sart is just another example of one of those professionals who thinks what he's read on the page and what he's learned will prepare him for dealing with one of these people in a relationship.

It won't.

I have talked to other professionals who have been ensnared in the HPD/BPD relationship web thinking they'd control the situation to their benefit only to find out they were dead wrong and their overconfidence turned out to be their greatest weakness among many other weaknesses the Cluster B in their life brought to the surface to get an edge over them.

The specialists in treating Cluster B don't take these people as lightly as regular mental health professionals as they are known to go to their own therapy sessions while treating the Cluster B patient so as to avoid being subtley manipulated out of their own sanity over time.

Also another thing Sart said is only usually true and that is what he said about these people being completely oblivious to their condition.

Sometimes indeed that is true but other times a sufferer recognizes they have something wrong with them and admits it if it has been revealed to them what it is.

My second one told me she believed her own lies and she knew she was HPD/BPD and what the condition consisted of. She accepted it and even told me she felt a sense of power from it.

So my conclusion is please don't mess with these people thinking you are going to not become effected by them in an extremely negative way.

The only way you won't be effected by them badly is if you are a sociopath or a masochist.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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