Bedding the BPD chick

[Sart]

Okay, so we have all these broken winged chicks with BPD etc. This NEW thread is from a diffferent angle.

These girls self loathe too much to want to be loved, so fukc the love stuff, what is the best way to simply roote them? As DJ's our mission should be to bag them, then let them go.

Any real DJ's out there know how to simply use their problem to our advantage for sex?

 

[Sart]

convert

If you care for one, I would say you are wasting your time, she is not LTR material, SO, CONVERT her to a sex toy then walk away.

Opinions on the best way to do this is what I am after. I have a fair idea but thought this is so topical that real DJ's should step up and spread and share their knowledge in this area.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Although I disagree with your point...

It seems that they're attracted to "bad boys".

You have to show no attachment and TOTAL DISINTEREST in her! + You have to be CF to extreme and have patience ('cause they're "unpredictable" and they test you a lot)!

Anyway, ask for Pimple-slice 'cause he landed one. He may give you more precise info!

 

[Marcopolo]

You ae playing with fire if you know they are BPD. You may not think that I am a DJ, but you are just asking for trouble. In all likelyhood, if she likes you, or has decided you are a good target is more like it, you will not have to do much of anything. She will come on very strong adn give you the best mindblowing sex you have ever had. Then she will sroke your ego and tell you that you are the greates guy she has ever met and make it beliveable. She will be believable because she knows just how to mold her persoanlity to yours. Uhnless you are a total sociopath you will develop strong feelings for her, like you have never for any other chick. She will suck you in before you know it, they are masters at it. It may be six months or a year before you even begin to figure out what she really is, and by then you may be married and/or living together., or have a child with her.
However, this is only one category of guy that she is involved with. There are two other categories. One is the kind of guy that she will meet at a bar for a one night stand, often to get some sort of twisted reveng on her regular guy. She onlty wants this guy for a ONS and will never bother with him again or keep him lined up in case she needs him again. If you are a real player, congradulations, you have probably bedded a number of these chicks already and do not even realize they had BPD. .
the third kind of guy she keeps around are her "friends" . These can be exes or just guys she knows from school/work. Of course, if you are involved with her you will never really know if they were in fact just "friends", especailly after you have caught her in a lie. Why she just has guy "friends", probably mostly to use as an emotional tampon. Generally with ex' s they are either f buiddys, friends, or this horrible evil ex boyfriend who treated her so bacly and she is no longer friends with him because he is such an a-hole. She will put you in this category if you are like me and do not want to just be "friends" with her because she hurt you too much and it is too painful for you. So to her right now I am the Great Satan, the personification of pure evil, etc. "painted black" as they say

 

[smoke city]

agreed, Marco.
I have some experience with girls with BPD. Unless you don't know her at all, and you just hit it once and never see her again, it's not worth it. Yes, you can put on your "Colin Farrell" persona and handle drama from your average woman (who is a little psycho to begin with) but the borderline girl is a master manipulator--her whole life is a drama and she is the director. Trust me, you don't want any part of it...I dated a borderline girl who nearly ruined my life (for example, tried to convince my family that I sexually assaulted her) -- I ended up in a 9 month depression, she ended up institutionalized.
These women are way beyond any kind of experience you want. The only pleasure they derive from relationships is in turning people into pawns in their melodrama. It stands to reason that she'll only want the same from you.

 

[Nightwing]

Originally posted by Sart
Okay, so we have all these broken winged chicks with BPD etc. This NEW thread is from a diffferent angle.

These girls self loathe too much to want to be loved, so fukc the love stuff, what is the best way to simply roote them? As DJ's our mission should be to bag them, then let them go.

Any real DJ's out there know how to simply use their problem to our advantage for sex?

You dont want to do that. You're asking for more problems than you bargain for. They'll love you intensely, then when you dont return their calls or want to be thier BF, then you'll be lower than shyt and they'll make your life a living hell. Check out the movie "Fatal Attraction" sometime.

 

[Sart]

fair game

Its all fair game, I don't actually know any BPD girls, well, I dont think I do. BUT, yeah, I would happily fukc one, hell sounds like a real fun game. Daddy her up, trip her up, give her one for the road.

I wasn't asking from the point of view of LTR, or anything remotely similar. Sounds to me like they would make really good stripper/hooker material for a real Pimp. Unfortunately I will never be a Pimp. Yeah, sounds like a great game if, like me, you really dont give a toss. Then again, I dont know if I know anyone with this disorder anyway to be frank.

If I met one, it would be fun to play her, just have absolutely NO emotional involvement I would have said.

 

[Walden]

Originally posted by Sart

Any real DJ's out there know how to simply use their problem to our advantage for sex?

Fer f***'s sake lads. Am I gonna be the only guy to say maybe we shouldn't be looking to f*** the mentally ill.

Raise your game.

 

[Marcopolo]

Anyway, ask for Pimple-slice 'cause he landed one. He may give you more precise info!

I have landed one, and I am telling you dude....don't do it

If I met one, it would be fun to play her, just have absolutely NO emotional involvement I would have said.

You think this, do you know what a Black Hole is by any chance? It is basically a star that collapses in onto itself until gravity =infinity. It sucks in everything around it, in fact, it's gravitational pull is so strong that it will even suck in light, hence the term "black hole". They will even suck in matter from nearby stars until the star goes "dead".
This is what these chicks do to you-you get too close to them and they suck you in like an emotional Black Hole- and once there you will be in a diferent universe -theirs.

 

[Nightwing]

You guys better listen to Marco!!!!!

A borderline chick is nothing to mess with.

 

[Sart]

lighten up

They aren't that bad, they actually are every thought you have, dissacoiated with their prior thought. They can obsess on you but will love you, literally one day and hate you the next. The ones I have treated, admittedly, not personally, are able to mature out of it as they age. They are not mentally ill and are capable of functioning but also are likely to take risks, self harm, prostituion, see things in black and white, mood swings. Not really that bad IF YOU KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS IN TACT.

You can out-manipulate a BPD because they are oblivious to their condition. Too many blokes here have tried to LTR them I think. They are innapropriate and lack a sense of self. From a sexuality viewpoint they would not be difficult to bag, if you controlled them. If you can take their highs and lows and ride them without taking it on board, they will be loyal to you, even when they hate you.

I have no interest in bagging one, but I think that maybe you get "sucked in" to that black hole because you are suckable inable, if you get my drift.

Nearly every person you meet has either APD, DPD, BPD or some social phobia these days. Mental health died with Gen X, lets face it.

 

[whowhat]

Listen to me, and hear me well, I have dated a BPD and lived with her for the last year, we just recently broke up, and my advice is....DO NOT EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER CONSIDER DATING OR EVEN ASSOCIATING WITH A BPD CHICK!!

Want a couple examples?
They lie-pathologically.

When you meet them they will think you are the greatest person in the world, to the point of it being wierd, like they are obsessed. But when they get mad? Hell has no fury like a woman with BPD. I have been physically beaten, hit while driving my car, screamed at for hours on end for no apparent reason, had my personal items destroyed, etc.

They will appear to just seem "odd" in other words their reality and what everybody elses reality is are different.

They most likely will not have a good relationship with their family because they are sick of dealing with them and their behavior. Will have little or no friends (if they do their men) will have had many many different jobs. Will take up one job or hobby and be all gung ho about it and the next week act like it never existed. They will do drugs, drink excessivley, smoke etc.

When they decide in their mind that you are no longer worthy of them, they will drop you in a second and move on to being in love with another guy the very next day. I kid you not. Most people when they break up go through a period of sadness and just want to be alone, these women can literally fall in love the very instant they dump you. They will also cheat without a second thought about it.

Some personal experiences....She would hit me, she would lie about things that made no sense lieing about, she would rage for hours and then a minute later act like nothing happened, she tried to kill herself twice in front of me, she was addicted to presecription meds and alcohol, she would get mad if I said the sky is blue just because she wanted to get mad...and to top it all off, when i finally left her and said enough is enough, she called the police accusing me of hitting her (which I never did) had me put in jail for domestic violence, and took many many personal items of mine that I will never get back.

You have to understand these people only see things in black or white, its called splitting. Things are either great or bad, good or evil. There is never a middle gound or a gray area like ou and I see things. And the prognosis for ever getting better is extremely bad, they are the one group of mental illnesses that psychiatrists hate to treat because they are so frustrating. Do no try and rescue them hoping they will get better, they will only suck you in and hurt you in the process.

She has been under treatment for a long time for this, and has only gotten worse. It is a sick sick illness and person who has BPD.

Trust me, if you even suspect meeting a person with this illness, run away asap. THey will destroy you.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Listen to me, and hear me well, I have dated a BPD and lived with her for the last year, we just recently broke up, and my advice is....DO NOT EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER CONSIDER DATING OR EVEN ASSOCIATING WITH A BPD CHICK!!

Want a couple examples?
They lie-pathologically.

When you meet them they will think you are the greatest person in the world, to the point of it being wierd, like they are obsessed. But when they get mad? Hell has no fury like a woman with BPD. I have been physically beaten, hit while driving my car, screamed at for hours on end for no apparent reason, had my personal items destroyed, etc.

They will appear to just seem "odd" in other words their reality and what everybody elses reality is are different.

They most likely will not have a good relationship with their family because they are sick of dealing with them and their behavior. Will have little or no friends (if they do their men) will have had many many different jobs. Will take up one job or hobby and be all gung ho about it and the next week act like it never existed. They will do drugs, drink excessivley, smoke etc.

When they decide in their mind that you are no longer worthy of them, they will drop you in a second and move on to being in love with another guy the very next day. I kid you not. Most people when they break up go through a period of sadness and just want to be alone, these women can literally fall in love the very instant they dump you. They will also cheat without a second thought about it.

Some personal experiences....She would hit me, she would lie about things that made no sense lieing about, she would rage for hours and then a minute later act like nothing happened, she tried to kill herself twice in front of me, she was addicted to presecription meds and alcohol, she would get mad if I said the sky is blue just because she wanted to get mad...and to top it all off, when i finally left her and said enough is enough, she called the police accusing me of hitting her (which I never did) had me put in jail for domestic violence, and took many many personal items of mine that I will never get back.

You have to understand these people only see things in black or white, its called splitting. Things are either great or bad, good or evil. There is never a middle gound or a gray area like ou and I see things. And the prognosis for ever getting better is extremely bad, they are the one group of mental illnesses that psychiatrists hate to treat because they are so frustrating. Do no try and rescue them hoping they will get better, they will only suck you in and hurt you in the process.

She has been under treatment for a long time for this, and has only gotten worse. It is a sick sick illness and person who has BPD.

Trust me, if you even suspect meeting a person with this illness, run away asap. THey will destroy you.

That's why I said it was not a good idea to mess with them!!!

Anyway, what Marcopolo and you've said is pretty accurate! They will suck you in to their inner turmoil (black hole) called Bpd!

Ex. There was a girl that always hugged people. One day a guy hugged her (as usual, she starts that), then later she was complaining, saying he was trying to grab her and that she was scared!!!

The most deceitful thing is that at the beginning they seem normal people and some of them are very intelligent! So you could never imagine they're dangerous, manipulative and exploitive people!

 

[flexion_]

Yep I have had the BPD experience as well - don't go anywhere near it as others have clearly and unanimously stated. You have no idea what you are messing with...

One skill I have acquired from the experience is how to spot them - my radar is highly tuned to them now.

 

[DeathDealer]

Bipolar are emotional rollercoasters. I've dated several of them and most of them became fuk/flirt buddies. I usually change my cell number if they start going psycho on me.

You can have a relationship with them but it must be "on the surface" Never consider them long term - they should only be friends or fuk buddies.

Most bipolar chicks are quite attractive to make up for their ugly inside.

 

[NatureGuy]

Interesting post, but are we talking about bi-polar disorder or borderline personality?

 

[drfeelingbad]

They aren't that bad, they actually are every thought you have, dissacoiated with their prior thought. They can obsess on you but will love you, literally one day and hate you the next. The ones I have treated, admittedly, not personally, are able to mature out of it as they age. They are not mentally ill and are capable of functioning but also are likely to take risks, self harm, prostituion, see things in black and white, mood swings. Not really that bad IF YOU KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS IN TACT.

You can out-manipulate a BPD because they are oblivious to their condition. Too many blokes here have tried to LTR them I think. They are innapropriate and lack a sense of self. From a sexuality viewpoint they would not be difficult to bag, if you controlled them. If you can take their highs and lows and ride them without taking it on board, they will be loyal to you, even when they hate you.

I have no interest in bagging one, but I think that maybe you get "sucked in" to that black hole because you are suckable inable, if you get my drift.

Nearly every person you meet has either APD, DPD, BPD or some social phobia these days. Mental health died with Gen X, lets face it.

even if it is a old thread, I have to give Sart lots of credit for his redmarked statement above:
IF YOU CAN TAKE THEIR HIGHS AND LOWS IT CAN WORK.
I DID FOR SOME YEARS BUT AN ORDINARY GUY CAN´T MAKE IT A LTR.

 

[AAAgent]

how can you say they aren't that bad if you've never been with one?

my ex bpd would give em bloody noses, knock me unconscious, and fight me almost everyday.

your saying you would deal with all that?

you may think you can deal with them because you won't have to put up with their bullsh!t because its just 1 day. but you know what?? you won't know if they're bpd from just one day.

They will need time to mold to fit into your personality and from what i've seen they tend to be in relationships more so its hard to find single ones.

If your just trying to find one in general, it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. They are a minority and seem very normal if not that above normal and functional. chances are... you won't know until its too late or if you've experienced one, you won't know until you meet that person that makes you feel like your the luckiest guy in the world....I know when i get that feeling again...if i get that again to start looking for signs or just run.

 

[drfeelingbad]

how can you say they aren't that bad if you've never been with one?

my ex bpd would give em bloody noses, knock me unconscious, and fight me almost everyday.

your saying you would deal with all that?

you may think you can deal with them because you won't have to put up with their bullsh!t because its just 1 day. but you know what?? you won't know if they're bpd from just one day.

They will need time to mold to fit into your personality and from what i've seen they tend to be in relationships more so its hard to find single ones.

If your just trying to find one in general, it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. They are a minority and seem very normal if not that above normal and functional. chances are... you won't know until its too late or if you've experienced one, you won't know until you meet that person that makes you feel like your the luckiest guy in the world....I know when i get that feeling again...if i get that again to start looking for signs or just run.

was that a reply to me ? I have been in the RC for 7 years man !!!

 

[AAAgent]

Its all fair game, I don't actually know any BPD girls, well, I dont think I do. BUT, yeah, I would happily fukc one, hell sounds like a real fun game. Daddy her up, trip her up, give her one for the road.

I wasn't asking from the point of view of LTR, or anything remotely similar. Sounds to me like they would make really good stripper/hooker material for a real Pimp. Unfortunately I will never be a Pimp. Yeah, sounds like a great game if, like me, you really dont give a toss. Then again, I dont know if I know anyone with this disorder anyway to be frank.

If I met one, it would be fun to play her, just have absolutely NO emotional involvement I would have said.

it was about this quote. didn't notice the thread was so old.