"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bedding the BPD chick

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I know this is an old topic but Sart is just another example of one of those professionals who thinks what he's read on the page and what he's learned will prepare him for dealing with one of these people in a relationship.

It won't.

I have talked to other professionals who have been ensnared in the HPD/BPD relationship web thinking they'd control the situation to their benefit only to find out they were dead wrong and their overconfidence turned out to be their greatest weakness among many other weaknesses the Cluster B in their life brought to the surface to get an edge over them.

The specialists in treating Cluster B don't take these people as lightly as regular mental health professionals as they are known to go to their own therapy sessions while treating the Cluster B patient so as to avoid being subtley manipulated out of their own sanity over time.

Also another thing Sart said is only usually true and that is what he said about these people being completely oblivious to their condition.

Sometimes indeed that is true but other times a sufferer recognizes they have something wrong with them and admits it if it has been revealed to them what it is.

My second one told me she believed her own lies and she knew she was HPD/BPD and what the condition consisted of. She accepted it and even told me she felt a sense of power from it.

So my conclusion is please don't mess with these people thinking you are going to not become effected by them in an extremely negative way.

The only way you won't be effected by them badly is if you are a sociopath or a masochist.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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