Becoming successful with women is a paradox

[tesla8520]

In the first stage, you're an AFC, completely unaware of signs of interest, how women communicate, what actually makes a man attractive, and so on.
In the second stage, the angry phase, you're constantly on high alert. You're analyzing every sign of interest, overthinking women's behavior, and constantly looking for validation that you're making progress toward the life you want.
Then comes the third stage. You stop caring about all of that again, but this time it's different. You're now aware of how things work, and in many ways you return to the mindset of stage one.

The difference is that you're no longer a "nice guy" or an AFC.
I'm not sure how to explain it, but in stage one, even though you were an AFC, you were focused on things other than women.

You put 100% of your energy into your work, your hobbies, your education, or your goals. When women showed interest, you were the stereotypical guy who completely missed the signals. You missed them because your attention was somewhere else.
You were fully invested in your own life.

I've always wondered why men seem to work this way. It's almost like an on/off switch.
The men who flip the switch to "off", shutting out everything around them so they can focus entirely on their own lives, will miss a lot of signals and interests from women, only to know 2 or 4 years after they "had a crush on him".

Ironically, though, they're on the right path.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Unable to focus on their life until they completely ignore the world around?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Because most people are not willing to put in the effort to get the results they actually want.

They put in some sub-standard effort or the effort they "think" should get them what they want and when that doesn't work, they simply give up like a little whiny b!tch.

If you want something in life, you go fvcking get it and you have to be willing to put in the amount of work that it requires, not the amount of work you are willing to put in. Those two things are almost always vastly different.

And for many guys starting from zero, the amount of work they need to put in and the time it will take to recognize improvements to obtain results regularly is a lot. They will also have long periods where the work they are putting in isn't getting them the results they want...similar to the people who grind in darkness on a business and then all of a sudden 8 years later they suddenly become millionaires "overnight" when it finally takes off.

It didn't happen overnight, it's just that nobody saw them grinding for years in obscurity putting the work and effort in to get to that level.

As a man, if you want something then you have to be willing to put that type of work in regardless of what it is. Women, finances, career, etc...

Nothing is handed to you, success in each of those domains has its own terms that you must navigate and commit to achieving. What you are willing to do has no relevancy.