"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Becoming Inhuman

Fender

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My poor little inner child- confused, lost, inhuman...

Too much information, too many thoughts, too many techniqes. So little experience, so little "life", so little HUMANITY.

I'm not sure if this is the part of adolescence people talk about...unsure of ones own self. I'm not depressed or anything, but I just feel like I've lost myself under a layer of bulls*t. LayerS of bullsh*t.

I've decided to abondon anything related to girls until I can get myself sorted out. I need to be the person I truly am.

So if you guys have any advice on finding the inner "human," feel free to guide me. And if you are having simmilar problems, we can try to work em out together. Nothin' a bunch of DJ's can't handle! ;)

-peace-
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sometimes, i feel inhuman too... i think that nothing really big happens to me, like i cannot ruin my life or die, no matter what i do... it's cool in a certain sort of way
 

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dude feelings and emotions are normal you can't control them. ALl you have to do is keep on living and realize that what you DO is much more important than what you FEEL. A great way to tame your mind and emotions is to become fully aware of what's going on inside and accept it. That way it becomes less of a big deal and eventually you grow as a person and realize your emotions aren't out of whack.
 

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And then you realize that the feeling of feeling inhuman is just another feeling... hahaha. All bull**** aside though, one of the first things that I learned is that when you are in the middle of the game... all of those techniques go out the window... it's all instinct. Basically what I am saying is this... come here to learn it and then when it's time to execute... throw it all out of the window.

AS
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Antichrist star, you are my hero:D

It's a nice way to put it....learn everything and throw it out the window when the time comes:cheer:

Metal fortress, it's not that I'm thinknig negatively right now, I'm just thinking about the wrong things:p I always worry about what others think of me, how i look to others, etc. All that BULLsh*t isn't realli needed!

I just need a way to live in my own head, instead of living in other ppl's.

I'm trying NLP at the moment to get rid of this "need to please' syndrome. Any other tips and advice welcome. thx.

-Be Peaceful-
 

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Originally posted by Fender

Metal fortress, it's not that I'm thinknig negatively right now, I'm just thinking about the wrong things:p I always worry about what others think of me, how i look to others, etc. All that BULLsh*t isn't realli needed!
Well, since you know the source of it, it should be that much easier to cure. Simple solution is to do EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE of what your urges (the ones worried about what others think of you) tell you to do for awhile. Purposefully do the OPPOSITE of what you feel will gain the approval of others. Don't do this all the time, but after enough of it, you will find it a LOT easier to do what you want without care of what others think.
 

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Lol, MetalFortress, that's actually a great idea! Do the opposite of that "social voice" inside of my head.

I'll try it for a week and see how it goes.

Another problem I just realised I have is that I'm trying to DJ the girls that I don't even have interest in! Why on earth am I doing that for??? So from now on, I will try to treat all girls I have no interest in like guys. Should be easy enuff....
 
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