"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Becoming Inhuman

Fender

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My poor little inner child- confused, lost, inhuman...

Too much information, too many thoughts, too many techniqes. So little experience, so little "life", so little HUMANITY.

I'm not sure if this is the part of adolescence people talk about...unsure of ones own self. I'm not depressed or anything, but I just feel like I've lost myself under a layer of bulls*t. LayerS of bullsh*t.

I've decided to abondon anything related to girls until I can get myself sorted out. I need to be the person I truly am.

So if you guys have any advice on finding the inner "human," feel free to guide me. And if you are having simmilar problems, we can try to work em out together. Nothin' a bunch of DJ's can't handle! ;)

-peace-
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sometimes, i feel inhuman too... i think that nothing really big happens to me, like i cannot ruin my life or die, no matter what i do... it's cool in a certain sort of way
 

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dude feelings and emotions are normal you can't control them. ALl you have to do is keep on living and realize that what you DO is much more important than what you FEEL. A great way to tame your mind and emotions is to become fully aware of what's going on inside and accept it. That way it becomes less of a big deal and eventually you grow as a person and realize your emotions aren't out of whack.
 

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And then you realize that the feeling of feeling inhuman is just another feeling... hahaha. All bull**** aside though, one of the first things that I learned is that when you are in the middle of the game... all of those techniques go out the window... it's all instinct. Basically what I am saying is this... come here to learn it and then when it's time to execute... throw it all out of the window.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Antichrist star, you are my hero:D

It's a nice way to put it....learn everything and throw it out the window when the time comes:cheer:

Metal fortress, it's not that I'm thinknig negatively right now, I'm just thinking about the wrong things:p I always worry about what others think of me, how i look to others, etc. All that BULLsh*t isn't realli needed!

I just need a way to live in my own head, instead of living in other ppl's.

I'm trying NLP at the moment to get rid of this "need to please' syndrome. Any other tips and advice welcome. thx.

-Be Peaceful-
 

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Originally posted by Fender

Metal fortress, it's not that I'm thinknig negatively right now, I'm just thinking about the wrong things:p I always worry about what others think of me, how i look to others, etc. All that BULLsh*t isn't realli needed!
Well, since you know the source of it, it should be that much easier to cure. Simple solution is to do EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE of what your urges (the ones worried about what others think of you) tell you to do for awhile. Purposefully do the OPPOSITE of what you feel will gain the approval of others. Don't do this all the time, but after enough of it, you will find it a LOT easier to do what you want without care of what others think.
 

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Lol, MetalFortress, that's actually a great idea! Do the opposite of that "social voice" inside of my head.

I'll try it for a week and see how it goes.

Another problem I just realised I have is that I'm trying to DJ the girls that I don't even have interest in! Why on earth am I doing that for??? So from now on, I will try to treat all girls I have no interest in like guys. Should be easy enuff....
 
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