Chuckii_Mack
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A Bit Middle Class and Judgemental. But OK.
Chuckii
Chuckii
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Become a man of value
- Thread starter Jariel
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Jar do you class negs, push pull, 1 step forward 2 steps back, hoops, loops as manipulation?
I do, and I use them, they create a fun interaction and will usually have the girl begging YOU for sex. She enjoys it, that's the main thing, your focused on the negative aspect of it.
S0LID
I do, and I use them, they create a fun interaction and will usually have the girl begging YOU for sex. She enjoys it, that's the main thing, your focused on the negative aspect of it.
S0LID
I used to use those things, but it got to be too much hassle and required too much thinking, so now I just go out, relax and be myself. I don't give much thought to speaking to women now, I just speak to them like I know them as a friend. Sometimes it involves teasing or ****y + funny, but it all depends on the person and situation to how I adapt. I usually find whatever I say goes down well with most people as I spend a lot of time around people and have developed natual social skills.S0LID said:
I don't mean to focus so much on the negatives, but I do believe that most people can see through fakers or try hards.
I've actually pulled many girls who were not intrested, who were *****y, walking away from me, normal convo wouldnt have cut it.... To start off with I was coming across fake, so what? It just becomes who you are eventually. Manipulation is not about being a geek or insecure, it's just about putting the odds in your favour.
Statistics favour the manipulator.
Statistics favour the manipulator.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
bump
excellent post.
We can see and smell fakers everywhere we go...
they are insecure and want to prove everybody they are the "****".
So they care a lot on what others think of them.
Some try go seek approval and validation from people. It's not an honest interaction.
I would like to know if you know how to stop that ****.
I mean, I want to be COMPLETE.
Relations would be more honest, geniune, and I would not talk to TAKE anything, but to GIVE.
How how?
We can see and smell fakers everywhere we go...
they are insecure and want to prove everybody they are the "****".
So they care a lot on what others think of them.
Some try go seek approval and validation from people. It's not an honest interaction.
I would like to know if you know how to stop that ****.
I mean, I want to be COMPLETE.
Relations would be more honest, geniune, and I would not talk to TAKE anything, but to GIVE.
How how?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
In order to have those things in a relationship you need to have them in yourself. Don't just be honest, first be honest to yourself. Don't just be genuine, first be genuine with yourself.Naled said:
Many guys act honest and genuine but the complain when they make a mistake and blow up their entire game. This happens when their is a lack of authenticity. Guy's who are truly successful do not act like a DJ, they are genuine DJs. They live the life of a DJ authentically.
Some guys see these DJs as naturals, as if they were born with these qualities. This isn't always the case, however they have made the appropriate traits their own so that they seem as if they were born with them.
My problem is :
when I talk to someone, sometimes I feel disapointed, like I was seeking her approval, pleasing that person, and at the end, I felt rejected.
I want to be complete myself like you said, so rejection or disaproval don't hurt.
Stephane from ideagasms says that in order to not care what others think of you, you must first stop judging yourself for those things. Problem gone.
Hmmm....
when I talk to someone, sometimes I feel disapointed, like I was seeking her approval, pleasing that person, and at the end, I felt rejected.
I want to be complete myself like you said, so rejection or disaproval don't hurt.
Stephane from ideagasms says that in order to not care what others think of you, you must first stop judging yourself for those things. Problem gone.
Hmmm....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Boschy
Senior Don Juan
In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven Covey's points about living life according to principles also applies here. He says when you live by principles and use them to make decisions, you never let emotions or irrelevant factors cloud your judgement or affect your self esteem/worth. It's not about keeping everyone happy, but instead being consistent and ethical to yourself and to others.
In terms of being a DJ, one principle might be "I will try to be the best person I can be", which could translate to such truisms as "women who do not know me personally cannot hurt me by rejecting my overtures".
In terms of being a DJ, one principle might be "I will try to be the best person I can be", which could translate to such truisms as "women who do not know me personally cannot hurt me by rejecting my overtures".
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Good question. I'd take the social value, because with it comes friends, the ability to get by in life and interact with people, and some women are attracted to that value alone.Steele said:
I'm yet to achieve financial success, but I do have looks, talent and social value, and my social value is by far my most fulfilling.