"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Be like Jerry!

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Jerry Seinfield is the man. He gets many girls with his charm and comedian jokes. He may be a joker guy, but he's confident, mature, and best of all, funny. This is why he is so attractive to females. Be like Jerry!

P.S. : I have a small gut, but I'm not fat at all. You wouldn't even think it. Do you think small guts bother girls?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dont have a gut yet, but that doesn't seem to grant me any success with girls. I doubt it matters.
 

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Maybe it's not your body that's the problem. Personality? The way you dress maybe?

Girls usually put personality before looks.
 

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Hmm, there's this girl who has loved me for like three years. We use to be like best pals, always staying over each others place. She wanted to have sex, but I never did anything about it. I was just one of the "nice guys". She still wants me, yet I don't do nothing. She even has a boyfriend who she lives with, but I know she don't like him, she complains about him alot.

I'm thinking about calling her tomorrow and arranging a meeting to hang out, she can stay over my place for the night, then we can head down town next day and hang out like old times.

I'm even considering to hook up with her for a while, you know like, casual partners. I don't see me and her as a special item. Even her father wants us to hook up together, he's been trying to get us together forever, lol.

What you guys think?
 

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Originally posted by Tails
Maybe it's not your body that's the problem. Personality? The way you dress maybe?

Girls usually put personality before looks.

Are you sure about that????
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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