"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Be carefull with c&f and DD material. I lost a good one cause of it.

gimmeyofonenumba

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I met this chick, when she was on vacation in my home town, turns out she actually lives in the same city I was moving to in a week. We met up for dinner and everything was fvcking gravy. Convo was awesome, lots of kino, so much stuff in common, she's hot, and just a cool chick. Throughout the nite, I was doing a little teasing on her, and i thought it was working she said something like "you keep teasing me,huh?" with a playfull smile, we went for a walk too, it was good. From the begining i thought she was a big AW, and maybe she still is, thats why i had the idea of not being such a nice guy.

Next day i called her, told her i wasnt doing anything, and she hinted at hanging out, but i was actually watching football with my buds. The next day,i called her, and she happened to be right in the same area, where i was taking my lunch break. But i had 0 time left on my break and had to head back, I told her We'd hang out in a few days.

Called her up, nothing, Never heard from her again. Now im replaying alot of the things she had said to me, and I was stupid for just not understanding that she generally liked me, regardless of any fvckin p/up material. She saw my apt, and even mentioned how she wanted to give me a few things like lights or whatever. There was enough in common, enough in rapport to just not have to rely on any material. Just a word of caution, sometimes I think you just need to completely disregard this p/up material. Question for you guys though. She did say she generally falls for "nice guys" what does that translate to?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
...Now im replaying alot of the things she had said to me, and I was stupid for just not understanding that she generally liked me, regardless of any fvckin p/up material.
Examples? Was it the p/up material or was it the way that it was delivered?
gimmeyofonenumba said:
...She did say she generally falls for "nice guys" what does that translate to?
:eek: RUN FOR 'DA HILLS!!!!

Actually, she is "accustomed" to guys that do the stereotypical (supplicant) "nice guy" type things (why date the guy when the dinners are free?). She probably saw you as someone different and didn't know how to handle you. Is that a bad thing? No, but is she capable of adjusting her premise of how a guy should act?
 

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I dont think it was the way it was delieverd. I think it was the fact that it was something she probably isnt used too, plus the fact that i had priorites in my schedule over her. In response to the other question, no I didnt kiss her. I could've and probably should've but I dont think that would make much of a difference, being that she continously wanted to see me the following days.
 

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Sometimes, we may never know why girls act they way do. Just accept it and move on. Hell, they don't even know why they make such illogical decisions, so don't fret on it, and look forward. That next girl could be right down the block.

This was said before, but it's important that you don't overgame. Sometimes we have a tendency to go overboard with this material. It's important to understand the principles and ideas behind it, but use it wisely and accordingly.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Are you guys on dope? The reason is the OP shot himself in the foot. Sounds like this was a chick not trying to play any "games" (yes, they do exist, but they're rare) and you came off as "fake" because of everything you did that there is an acronym for. I mean, some of that stuff is good for the pickup, but after you're in you'll just come off as fake. Be yourself, and if you're interested, and she's interested, then for Christssake show her some interest. 'Nuff said.
 

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MooseGod said:
Are you guys on dope? The reason is the OP shot himself in the foot. Sounds like this was a chick not trying to play any "games" (yes, they do exist, but they're rare) and you came off as "fake" because of everything you did that there is an acronym for. I mean, some of that stuff is good for the pickup, but after you're in you'll just come off as fake. Be yourself, and if you're interested, and she's interested, then for Christssake show her some interest. 'Nuff said.
exactly...dont over game.
 

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Don't listen to that c1 a3 bull****, it's not always that linear. A good model, but it is just a model. Everyone has done this at some point or another, if they have tried to incorporate CF. I've lost more than a couple girls by coming off too strong. That is how you find your balance though. Take it as a learning experience because it is! You're growing.
 
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