"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Be a leader

Alexis Zorba

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Do you think you’ve got what it takes to be a leader?

Most people believe that that you can only be a leader if you are born as one.
I disagree. Anyone can be a leader.
Allow me to explain. It has been my observation that we have hundreds of opportunities to act as leaders throughout the day. We have opportunities that other people refuse to take for various reasons. The main reason is fear. You don’t believe me? Let me give you some examples.
How many times has the teacher asked a question and no one has dared to raise his/her hand?
How many times during a speech or any other class that involves some kind of oral project the teacher has asked for volunteer to go first? And how many times not a single hand has raised and the teacher had to pick some one?
How many times you and your friends have wanted to go and talk to a girl but nobody did?
How many times has someone pushed his (more often her) way into the cafeteria line and you have just stood there, wanting to say something, wanting to put that person in his/her place but being afraid to standup for yourself?
Yes my fellow High School Don Juans almost everybody in High School is afraid to take the command of a situation. Almost everybody is afraid to set an example and become a leader. You see, what makes a leader is not a “divine” quality he was born with. What makes a leader is the way he reacts to any situation, even if it is a small one. A leader takes every opportunity he has in order to raise above the masses, to be better. This doesn’t mean he is better than everyone else it just means that he acts better than most people. Yes, action is the key to becoming a leader. A leader acts and excels in every chance he gets.
So you see? You DO HAVE WHAT IT TAKES to become a leader. You just have to act and take every opportunity. It doesn’t matter how small it is, just take it.
Go ahead my fellow Juans BECOME LEADERS.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alexis Zorba

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BUMP:D Hey if I don't promote my self who will?
 

Alexis Zorba

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Thanks Kbto.

Steveoo5: I had no idea I was, I just thought that those parts were what the post was all about.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hmmmmmmmmmm sounds a lot like.... The Alpha Male.

This has been said before bud, good read though.

Just read the bible, this post proves you haven't read enough of it.
 

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PiHi: I know it sounds alot like te alpha male because it is about the alpha male. I just thought people here needed to see how easy it is to become a leader in any given circumstance. The real problem is to become the leader in a daily basis, to act as a leader every oportunity you get, to make the act of becoming a leader a habit.
By the way, don't assume things that are not true. I have read the bible over three times. I have been lurking around these boards even before there was a HighSchool forum. The thing is just recently did I begin to grasp the concept of being a DJ. You see, I read and read but rarely acted. Now it's different. I'm not saying I am the way I want to be, yet. I just began to improve, there is a lot left to do. Anyways I better end this soliloquy.
Thanks for your reply though...:D
 
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