Ok we are getting down to very specific use-cases now but this is the line of debate I wanted to have and you are making great points, so having said that.....
How can you hit the ball back to her court, when's she dropped the ball? The ball is still in HER court, lol. Telling you she is busy without a counter offer is dropping the ball. For you to ask her for a counter offer is like picking up a second ball and hitting it to her again.
Take for example, a girl who texts you first thing in the morning on a day when you were going to have a date in the evening. She says something like, "Hey I caught a nasty could from my friend's daughter over the weekend so I think we are going to have to re-schedule."
Are you really saying you just don't respond to that at all or you say, "Sounds good" and you leave it at that?! If it's a plausible reason like described above (as opposed to "hey, something came up and I can't make it tonight" which I would view as a clear rejection and not even bother responding to), and she specifically states "reschedule," it could be true. She could also be feeling ill, but not so ill that she absolutely couldn't see you and she wants to see you so is taking your temperature as to how big a deal it would be to reschedule vs just going through with the date tonight even though she isn't 100%. To me, a text like that doesn't necessarily indicate a soft rejection. I would counter by asking her to let me know when she feels better and we can set something up. Over the past few years, if I did this and never heard from the girl again, that would be the end of my "pursuit." But lately I've been questioning if it would make sense to reach out just one more time in a week or two to see if she's just forgotten, been really sick, just got busy, or is in a better state of mind/hormones to want to get together. Yes, I agree with you that women are perfectly capable of setting up dates themselves, but you know how they are... they tend to live in the moment based on their current feelings and mood. Catch them on the right day and they will strike.
If you are sitting at a restaurant with a friend and you don't want desert, but your friend orders some and you see it and suddenly you are hungry again and you order some for yourself... that triggered your desire and your action.
I'll tell you again about my experience with the female dating forum. They do this on purpose because women in general have a hard time saying no or looking like the bad guy. They avoid confrontation whenever possible. In fact, most women actively look for ways to let guys down without flat out saying it. They have a hard time saying no. Go figure. One of the most often asked questions women always ask is "How do I give this guy a hint without looking rude?" And the answer is always "Just tell him you're busy." This is literally the number 1 excuse they use to avoid you. But on text and in real life. It is as universal as plausible deniability - where women give you an excuse to be alone with them.
Totally agree with this. I'd say maybe 1 out of 50 girls will flat out tell you they aren't feeling you. The rest all soft-reject you by being some form of "busy." But this is common knowledge here..... and it doesn't mean that ANY cancellation without immediate inclusive reschedule offer means it's a rejection. Especially if the reason is plausible. At least, that's my opinion, and it is subject to change as I continue evolving.
If the average attractive women go on 50+ dates a year, its not an oversight that she forgot to give you a counter offer. Look no further than this very board. Every single situation where the woman didn't give a counter offer and the guy kept pursuing eventually ends up with the woman ghosting(but in reality she nexted him long before that). I challenge you to find one situation that didn't happen, lol.
I haven't posted about it here, but I've had experiences that run the gamut.
1. Have had a girl not give a counter offer with her reschedule request, but when I suggested another day or asked her for another day, she gave it to me and we went on the date and we dated for a while. I will admit, while this has happened, it hasn't been common.
2. Back when I was blue-pilled, I had a girl say she wanted to reschedule but when I asked her for a day, she said she'd have to get back to me. I checked back one more time a week later and she was still unsure. Obviously knowing what I know now, I wouldn't do this - if she says she will get back to me, I leave that ball in her court. Sometimes they DO get back to me, though it's not that common.
3. Have had girls request to reschedule and immediately throw out a couple days/options
If you want to talk percentages though, I agree that it's statistically a bad sign when a girl re-schedules, and statistically even worse when she doesn't immediately throw out another date. Any time that happens, I immediately assume it's over, but I'm not going to just ghost.