Batting 1.000 Night Game/Maybe .200 Day Game

[Macaframalama]

Won't go on with a bunch of bullchit, with walls of text in op, so I'll state the facts and what I know. Batting 1.000 at night doesn't mean I'm pulling every chic I holler at that night, but I'm slaying me a baddy by end of night with little effort. Day game I equate by approach to sex.

• My night game/day game success:fail ratio is way off I feel. Too much discrepancy, between the two. I'm smashing just about whatever I set my eyes on night game. Last two months or so, I'm struggling day game.
• I do shoot from way behind the arc and swing for the fence allot. It's not a beer goggle thing, because night game, I'm doing plenty of sniffing, twirling her, checking her out and grabbing and making sure my meat is marbled.
• I have adopted somewhat of an aggressive approach towards day game and my finesse is off.
• I got offered a promotion and a $5.50 raise, after around a month of being at my job, so the majority of my mental energy has been going towards that and completing a few other goals I had set, before the offer.
• I'll be 40 next month, so my days living the party lifestyle are numbered. I'm already sick of it, but I'm built for it and it's been in my blood, since day 1. Reality, is the lion is aging and we all know what happens in that scenario. I'm still strong as a bull, skills are sharp and have a willingness to escalate violence, but those attributes aren't going to carry me for another 40 years. (Well considering how pvssy millennials are nowadays, I might have to think about that one).
• My daughter is taking a trip to Mexico this month for a gastric bypass. She's not even big, but there's that too. I might even be actually contributing to this madness.
• A transition has to be made at some point. I've got two options the way I see it and too many friends that's traveled the same path, that's either dead or spent quarters and thirds of their lives in and out of prison.
• Celibacy feels like an option, until I accomplish the goals I've already set, but I'd rather not.

@guru1000 @AJ84 @BeExcellent @where the fvck is midnight city?!?!

 

[skinnyguy]

Night game is fun. I went to Concrete Cowboy tonight and had a truly amazing time. All of these white women were all over me - I couldn't believe it. I think I have had a rebirth.

I'm now mid 30's and having fun. I don't mind that I'm still clubbing and drinking. I look 25, and feel 25.

 

[AJ84]

I don't think you should be all that concerned with trying to bat high on both ends. I haven't been able to do that either since I was younger had far less responsibility and there wasn't much of a difference in my headspace on days vs. nights. But as I got older, more responsibility, I found my head to naturally be in a different place during the day with life going on vs. at night with lights down, music thumping, everyone drinking and having a good time....

At this point I'm ok with doing good with one or the other, depending on my short term goals. When I just want to have fun, I focus on doing better with night game. When I get tired of the crazy, I turn my focus to day game and let the night game go for a while. I personally think that's the beauty of being a single, older man; you can just do what pleases and serves you, rather than keep up some standard that others expect.

I agree, go with your energy level and mood and don't force it. It should feel good like you are out to have a good time for yourself.

 

[marmel75]

I'd much rather be good at night game because there is a much higher probability of sex that night happening whereas day game is far less due to many factors, lack of alcohol loosening up inhibition being one of them.

 

[Red Legg]

You have to be bold for day gaming and most men cannot do that it is only because of my experience in door to door sales that I am good at it as you have to get over a mental hump of numerous rejections and most men's ego's are to fragile for such an adventure.

 

[Macaframalama]

You better be able to do day game and social circle game if you want quality

This.

I think most would agree that if you're looking for quality you're probably not going to find it in a nightclub.

And this. Not saying there isn't good women here and there, but it's me too. I have one thing on my mind, when I'm in that mode. Drink beer and smash box. Thing is, I don't want to find myself at 50 still living that lifestyle.

You have to be bold for day gaming

I think this is the problem here, not being bold enough, but too bold. I think I need to be a little more tactful. I also go for anything I see that I like, wether she thinks she's out of my league or not.

But I found out today that I got the promotion at work, so that should free up a little extra mental energy to regroup.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady;

Night game and day game require different types of calibration socially. @LARaiders85 summed it up nicely. In night game a man is best to lead with physicality. Otherwise known as masculinity, or bravado. I love a man with enough nads to act from raw bravado. Nothing sexier than that.

Day game is more coy. Intellectual. Clever. So in day game personality leads the way lest you come across as a creep or groper or something similarly off putting.

Here's the thing. Naturals and players evolve to subconsciously understand the distinction between the tools of night game versus the tools of day game.

I am fascinated in fact by my boyfriend's innate grasp of both day game and night game. He is social and engaging by day....unapologetically masculine and physical at night. Effortlessly. At all times he posses both skill sets. He just knows what to lead with in a given circumstance. It's impressive...and I'm not easily impressed.

Cultivate this kind of social calibration and you'll do fine. Never apologize for your masculine nature. Just know when to lead with it straight up...and when it should simmer in the background.