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Remember to internalize the knowledge that basing your self worth on a woman's ‘acceptance’ is insane. If a man doesn't have self-respect, everything else in his life is in vain. Don't forget it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Basing your self worth on a woman's 'acceptance' is INSANE.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
True, but the average acceptance level by the average girl you meet is a good indication of your overall value.
If you go out to a bar and ten girls look at you and none of them smile, you probably didn't look good that night.
If you go out to a bar and ten girls look at you and none of them smile, you probably didn't look good that night.
Wildebeest
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"True, but the average acceptance level by the average girl you meet is a good indication of your overall value.
If you go out to a bar and ten girls look at you and none of them smile, you probably didn't look good that night."
In my opinion, these statements are way too general to mean much or be useful in any way, all it does is sound weak and needy, begging for female validation. Im trying to throw this **** away in my head.
What is average acceptance level, who is the average girl, what is overall value. This terms don't have that much abstract meaning.
Your 'overall' value needs to be independent of environmental forces and based internally. You're saying that I walk around believing im an 8/10, twenty girls dont smile at me, and then I should feel like a 1/10. What happens then? Self fulfilling prophecy. I start acting like a 1/10, and then I become a 1/10. No, im an 8/10 because of my inherent value and die to continued self investment, I will become only more valuable in time, irrespective of how many girls may or may not be on their period, and decide to smile at me.
In theory though, as my inherent value grows, I should get a higher percentage of acceptance ON average. I just dont like this theory for helping me do anything useful...
If you go out to a bar and ten girls look at you and none of them smile, you probably didn't look good that night."
In my opinion, these statements are way too general to mean much or be useful in any way, all it does is sound weak and needy, begging for female validation. Im trying to throw this **** away in my head.
What is average acceptance level, who is the average girl, what is overall value. This terms don't have that much abstract meaning.
Your 'overall' value needs to be independent of environmental forces and based internally. You're saying that I walk around believing im an 8/10, twenty girls dont smile at me, and then I should feel like a 1/10. What happens then? Self fulfilling prophecy. I start acting like a 1/10, and then I become a 1/10. No, im an 8/10 because of my inherent value and die to continued self investment, I will become only more valuable in time, irrespective of how many girls may or may not be on their period, and decide to smile at me.
In theory though, as my inherent value grows, I should get a higher percentage of acceptance ON average. I just dont like this theory for helping me do anything useful...
DonGorgon
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but its also natural because success rates vs failure relates are directly related to the human emotional and mental health state and can affect depression and motivation.. also since mating with females is the human males number one driving force behind most of what he does it makes perfect sense that his self worth be affected by his mating success and frequency.
BUT... often w have other issues and depression that can intact result in a reduced success rate with women thats why its recommended that we stay on the best mental and physical shape we can outside of our sex Chase frame
BUT... often w have other issues and depression that can intact result in a reduced success rate with women thats why its recommended that we stay on the best mental and physical shape we can outside of our sex Chase frame
Mike32ct
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DonGorgon is spot on.
As much as I hate to admit it, it does matter how women perceive us. For a guy to keep getting rejected by women, for months or even years, can REALLY F with your head big time. I know this from experience.
BUT, to optimize your game and improve your success with women, you have to not care what they think of you.
So yeah it matters, but you must block it out of your mind. Otherwise, you will be on a rollercoaster. Cute chick Fs you, so you feel good. Several other chucks reject you, so you feel like a loser. Igetit warned about this. You need a stable self-worth that is independent of what women think.
Plus, to be fair, most of these women don't even know you anyway. You are assuming that her split-second (at MOST) judgement of you is gospel. It isn't.
As much as I hate to admit it, it does matter how women perceive us. For a guy to keep getting rejected by women, for months or even years, can REALLY F with your head big time. I know this from experience.
BUT, to optimize your game and improve your success with women, you have to not care what they think of you.
So yeah it matters, but you must block it out of your mind. Otherwise, you will be on a rollercoaster. Cute chick Fs you, so you feel good. Several other chucks reject you, so you feel like a loser. Igetit warned about this. You need a stable self-worth that is independent of what women think.
Plus, to be fair, most of these women don't even know you anyway. You are assuming that her split-second (at MOST) judgement of you is gospel. It isn't.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Wildebeest
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there are several categories that you may place facts in
those that are true
those that are false
what about other than truth? what about usefulness?
those that are true, and mentally harmful
those that are true, and mentally healthy
those that are false, and mentally harmful
those that are false, and mentally healthy
I know which categories I am going to invest in, do you?
Yes, female criticism through rejection is FEEDBACK that should make you ALTER your behaviour. But should it be taken to affect net SELF WORTH? NO.
It is important to notice the rejection, and release your emotional attachment to it
those that are true
those that are false
what about other than truth? what about usefulness?
those that are true, and mentally harmful
those that are true, and mentally healthy
those that are false, and mentally harmful
those that are false, and mentally healthy
I know which categories I am going to invest in, do you?
Yes, female criticism through rejection is FEEDBACK that should make you ALTER your behaviour. But should it be taken to affect net SELF WORTH? NO.
It is important to notice the rejection, and release your emotional attachment to it