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Basics of the NLP mindset - I

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As my studies advance, I feel comfortable to give everyone some insights about the basics of the NLP mindset, which is very similar to the mindset of a SS, and will surely get you to think and change.

Map isn't territory - We all see the world through filters, which aren't necessarily the real truth.

Structures of Behavior

1 - An atittude geared towards results instead of problems.
2 - Change the focus of your questions, using "How?" instead of "Why?".
3 - See the difference between failure and feedback.
4 - Consider the Possibilities instead of the Necessities.
5 - Adopt an attitude of Curiosity and Fascination instead of going from Pressupositions.

Our consciousness limits itself to 7 segments of information (2 more or 2 less), but our uncoscious mind can handle almost infinite processes.

4 stages of the Learning Experience

1 - Unconscious Incompetency: you're not aware of what you don't know.
2 - Conscious Incompetency: You're aware of what you don't know.
3 - Conscious Competency: you're aware of what know, but it takes a conscious efford to make use of it.
4 - Unconscious Competency: you know what you need to know, and to it exactly and unconsciously.

Example: Driving a car

1 - You don't have the slightest idea of how to drive a car
2 - You know what you can't do (parking, changing the gears)
3 - You know what to do and how to do it, but you have to pay a lot of attention to it.
(You can drive but you have to pay a lot of attention to everything you're doing)
4 - You do things automacally, so you can talk, listen to music, watch the babes walking down the street...

To Unlearn = going from 4 back to 2.
To Relearn = going from 2 to 4 with more options.

Well I guess this is enough for some mind workout.
If anyone doesn't understand any concepts, please post and I'll be glad to dissecate it for you


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Wow! I love this complex analisys of the human mind. Sounds a lot like the benne gesserit from dune. Nice post.
 

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By the way...

What do you mean by "Change the focus of your questions, using 'How?' instead of 'Why?'."?

I first ask myself:
"Why should I do that?"
and then, if I got a good reason for doing it:
"How should I do that?"

/Turbobird

[This message has been edited by Turbobird (edited 12-10-2002).]
 

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Turbobird, generally, when we talk in why/because, we only get Facts.
When you change your approach to How, you´ll get Contents.
Contents are what Processes are made of.

So, if you wanna know why someone's a good comunicator, you should think how is he a good comunicator, then you'll lead your thoughts to a more content-oriented manner.

It's something very obvious, but sometimes we forget, and in order to achieve excellence in whatever you're trying, you have to think How do I became x,y or z ?

First you do a, then b, after you're good with b, you try c, then d. Then after you can do a,b,c,d at the same time, you're going to be good at x/y/z.

The How, makes us think in terms of process, not of facts.

And NLP preaches the everything can be achieved through appropriated processes.

Hope I cleared it up!!

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Nice excerpt from "Introducing NLP" by Joseph O'Connor & John Seymour.

Its a great book, i recommend it to anyone even moderately intrigued by NLP.
 

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nice, now gimme part II :D
 

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Triple B, what are you saying with this post? What I pulled from it is that you want to be in the "Unconcious Competancy" category, but are you saying that you can achieve this without trial and error.. or what?
 

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Originally posted by USSOCOM
Triple B, what are you saying with this post? What I pulled from it is that you want to be in the "Unconcious Competancy" category, but are you saying that you can achieve this without trial and error.. or what?
By no means !!
You have to make a lot of mistakes to get to Uncoscious Competence... how many times did you stumble before you learned how to walk??

Nowadays when you walk you don't have to think: " Well, now I'm lifting my leg, folding my knees, putting my foot on the floor, balancing my back... "

You just walk !!

Hope this metaphor clear things up !!

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Good post BBB.
Iam almost finished readin an introduction to NLP by john oconner, or something like that...
its incredibly interesting. cant put the book down.
Iam sure anyone who hasnt read alot about NLP will find this post helpful.
 
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