"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bartering situation?

mrbojangs

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So this situation has happened to me twice so far and I'm not sure what the deal is with it.

I don't eat seafood yet two dates previously have tried to barter\force me to eat sea food. Is it a power thing on their end?

1st situation: Eat this oyster and I'll give you head. Needless to say I did eat it.
2nd situation: Eat this crab and I'll give you a massage. I declined.

So what's the deal with this? Am I simply looking into this too much?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Atom Smasher

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Wow, I find this interesting but I don't have an answer for you. I think we would need moe information about the particulars of each situation and whether or not the conversations were playful or not.

Try painting the picture a little more so we can give informed opinions.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Wow, I find this interesting but I don't have an answer for you. I think we would need moe information about the particulars of each situation and whether or not the conversations were playful or not.

Try painting the picture a little more so we can give informed opinions.
Not really sure how to paint a better picture but with both girls I was a total sucker. Both situations took place at nice expensive restaurants. They generally held all of the power.

A part of me thinks they were just testing how much control they can really have over me? As bad as that sounds...

They were dead serious as far as I could tell. I felt a wtf\upset\shocked vibe from the second girl when I said no. (haven't really said that to her before)...
 

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mrbojangs said:
Am I simply looking into this too much?
Yeah. It's just seafood, and she's probably just horny.
Take it as a joke and tease her about it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mrbojangs

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Atom Smasher said:
Wow, I find this interesting but I don't have an answer for you. I think we would need moe information about the particulars of each situation and whether or not the conversations were playful or not.

Try painting the picture a little more so we can give informed opinions.
Not really sure how to paint a better picture but with both girls I was a total sucker. Both situations took place at nice expensive restaurants. They generally held all of the power.

A part of me thinks they were just testing how much control they can really have over me? As bad as that sounds...

I find it odd I find myself in the exact same situation twice.
 

Chickfight

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Nah, I think it's cool, you get back more than you give don't you? And yes seafood IS delicious.
 

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Maybe the lesson to take away here is that we should all pretend to hate seafood.
 
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