"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bars/Pubs - Going Alone/Experiences

kairos

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OK - we need to settle this one....

What's the take on going to bars/pubs (not clubs - they suck!) to meet chicks? What about going alone? I've rarely ever tried them, I live in NYC, there are a lot of good ones here...I have few friends here and even if I go with them, I think I'd get stuck with them and not pick up chicks...so I might have to go alone ...any comments...

kairos
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mercenary

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Originally posted by kairos


I live in NYC
You should be macking it hard. There's no excuse on this one. NYC (and LA) has enough p**** to where you can mess up a thousand times, learn from those mistakes and still have countless hb's to work your game on.

Having said that, I usually just hit up the LES and follow the smell of beer and steak. For me, it's hella easier to meet people solo because there are less distractions. The subway, at certain stops, is far better than any bar for pickups imo.
 

Charisma

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I'm way better at getting digits when I'm alone. If we're with more then just me, I usually would invite the girls over to our table or something, end up having a good time, but no numbers.
 

stewartlittle

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Before I knew anything about this site, I always went out with my friends. But after reading the information on this site, I was eager to put the theory into practice. I noticed that my friends were always looking at me and when I started to talk to someone they were blocking me. So what to do next?

I could try to find new friends, but I thought that the situation would repeat itself.

I started to go out alone. In the beginning I thought that people are looking at me because I was with nobody. But I was amazed that people (men and female) started to talk. This almost never happens when I am out with my friends.

No I go out with and without my friends. It amazes me everytime that people talk to me.

I don't know about bars or pubs, try to look for something where a lot of women go to. Coffee shops are very popular among women and places where you can sit outside and have drink.

Outdoor events (with a lot of music) seem to attract a lot of women. Women love to dance.

Please put your smile on and give the impression that you love life, otherwise women will not talk to you.
 

obijuan

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If you go it alone then you have to bounce from one bar to another with more frequency then normal. Three drinks or so then hop to the next one. Women will tag you as a loser quickly so you have to work fast. Sit, then circle, sit, then circle. You can only do this so much before you look desperate and lonely.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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