"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bars/clubs in Toronto

TomN

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I'm planning a trip to Toronto soon with a couple friends, and I'm just looking for some suggestions of things to do while I'm there. Any bars with a great selection and friendly people would be great. I'm a big Scotch fan, so I'd be in heaven if someone knew of a bar with a great Scotch selection. Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Krassus

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Not a huge fan of bars, but good clubs are Guvernment, System Soundbar, Viva, Tonic, etc.
 

GaryNas

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I heard BOA was REALLY expensive. $50 cover!!


Add Joker to the list of good clubs... I've never had a bad time there.
 

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It would only be that much if it were an event or special DJ.. and JOKER sucks ASS..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GaryNas

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Originally posted by AndoraStar
It would only be that much if it were an event or special DJ.. and JOKER sucks ASS..
Yeah, Joker sucks if you have down syndrome...
 

AndoraStar

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You're really not into the club scene are you? Seriously that place was AMAZING years ago.. how old are you? maybe that's the reason you like it so much. I have been part of the scene for quite some time and I'm sorry but the place SUCKS!
 

GaryNas

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Originally posted by AndoraStar
You're really not into the club scene are you? Seriously that place was AMAZING years ago.. how old are you? maybe that's the reason you like it so much. I have been part of the scene for quite some time and I'm sorry but the place SUCKS!
I'm not claiming it's amazing, just that I've never had a bad time there. The only night I would consider going is Saturday though because 80's in the main room and dance upstairs. But no, I'm not really into the club scene and don't know what the latest "hot spots" are. Besides, how good can Toronto clubs really be? Have you ever been to NYC? It's insane there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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