"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Barney Stinson
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
alpha_ash
Senior Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
but as someone to look at if your in pick up. maybe not. he is going to be conditioned for the masses.
Huffman
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You can't really "learn" from him, because he's not a real/believable character. But he does have some nice quotes, like "If I'm sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead"
However I really enjoy him! I always hate episodes of Ted or Marshal, but Barney is frickin awseome!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Kenny Powers
Senior Don Juan
His general approach to life - i.e. have as much fun as possible and be awesome - is a great model. I don't think his suits are that stylish though - too business like.
Tell me more about this perspective.TDH said:
Having watched a few series of How I Met Your Mother I sometimes can't help to feel that the entire show is a satire.
For example, in one episode Robin is shooting cans on the roof with a gun she owns and the general sense from the native Americans is
"These Canadians are so silly and dangerous with their guns"
Let me get this straight, Americans are saying that Canadians have an obsession with guns and that they are dangerous.
When America has a National Rifle Association with 4 million people, an amendment in its constitution regarding the right to bear arms, approximately 300 million guns in the country (almost one per person) and has been the home of many mass killings and shootings in the last twenty years (Sandy Hook, Batman Cinema, Columbine).
Then we've got the character of Barney.
In the show, as you know, sleeps with hundreds of women and is constantly chasing s3xy women. He is literally the stereotype and extreme example of a heterosexual player.
Yet, in real life Neil Patrick Harris is gay. I found this to be one of the funniest things. His character is an overexaggeration of the male "classy player type" yet as a gay man is probably hated by definition by homophobic players.
Furthermore, his trademark is to wear suits and to stand out by wearing suits.
What is seen as the most bland, generic item of clothing used to describe men who are cookie-cutter businessmen?
Suits. The suit is the uniform of the corporate world.
Yet he is trying to stand out by wearing by a garment which is seen as an item of clothing worn by boring and unsympathetic businessmen.
I find this incredibly ironic.
It's always important to keep in mind that Barney is a character, a representation of a man and not a real, living man.
There are certainly positive aspects of his character to observe
- nonchalant attitude towards being rejected (it doesn't bother him)
- he has fun with it and enjoys the process
There are also negatives
- inauthenticity
- reliance on "playbook moves"
- reliance on lies, exaggerations
- ultimately, if you want a relationship with a girl she's going to realise you don't "work for the peace corps" "are an astronaut" or "pitch for the new york yankees".
Personally, I would never want to be Barney although there are aspects of his personality which would help with women. I value authenticity and this is in almost complete contradiction with is character