"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Barney Stinson
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
alpha_ash
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PapiChulo
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Packers2010
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but as someone to look at if your in pick up. maybe not. he is going to be conditioned for the masses.
Huffman
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You can't really "learn" from him, because he's not a real/believable character. But he does have some nice quotes, like "If I'm sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead"
However I really enjoy him! I always hate episodes of Ted or Marshal, but Barney is frickin awseome!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Kenny Powers
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His general approach to life - i.e. have as much fun as possible and be awesome - is a great model. I don't think his suits are that stylish though - too business like.
Tell me more about this perspective.TDH said:
Having watched a few series of How I Met Your Mother I sometimes can't help to feel that the entire show is a satire.
For example, in one episode Robin is shooting cans on the roof with a gun she owns and the general sense from the native Americans is
"These Canadians are so silly and dangerous with their guns"
Let me get this straight, Americans are saying that Canadians have an obsession with guns and that they are dangerous.
When America has a National Rifle Association with 4 million people, an amendment in its constitution regarding the right to bear arms, approximately 300 million guns in the country (almost one per person) and has been the home of many mass killings and shootings in the last twenty years (Sandy Hook, Batman Cinema, Columbine).
Then we've got the character of Barney.
In the show, as you know, sleeps with hundreds of women and is constantly chasing s3xy women. He is literally the stereotype and extreme example of a heterosexual player.
Yet, in real life Neil Patrick Harris is gay. I found this to be one of the funniest things. His character is an overexaggeration of the male "classy player type" yet as a gay man is probably hated by definition by homophobic players.
Furthermore, his trademark is to wear suits and to stand out by wearing suits.
What is seen as the most bland, generic item of clothing used to describe men who are cookie-cutter businessmen?
Suits. The suit is the uniform of the corporate world.
Yet he is trying to stand out by wearing by a garment which is seen as an item of clothing worn by boring and unsympathetic businessmen.
I find this incredibly ironic.
It's always important to keep in mind that Barney is a character, a representation of a man and not a real, living man.
There are certainly positive aspects of his character to observe
- nonchalant attitude towards being rejected (it doesn't bother him)
- he has fun with it and enjoys the process
There are also negatives
- inauthenticity
- reliance on "playbook moves"
- reliance on lies, exaggerations
- ultimately, if you want a relationship with a girl she's going to realise you don't "work for the peace corps" "are an astronaut" or "pitch for the new york yankees".
Personally, I would never want to be Barney although there are aspects of his personality which would help with women. I value authenticity and this is in almost complete contradiction with is character