"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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seanmichaels

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Can you go into a bar if you're over 18 but under 21? My friends invited me (who are over 21) to go with them to the bar they are going to drink but obviously I can't but could I still hang out in the bar with them while they drink or is it still illegal?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CableLight

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Depends...Can they sneak you in? Is the bar very strict?

I went to my first bar when I was 19...Sure, it was Iowa, but still...Just depends on security measures and whatnot. If the bar does it's job it should kick your ass out of there if you aren't 21.
 

dietzcoi

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Sucks to be you , the drinking age in NJ was 18 when I turned 18 (in 1978!!)

I hate the dumb ass drinking age laws in the USA, but that is one of many reasons I want to stay in Europe.

Dietzcoi
 

Panda 2000

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Er, I'm 17 and I've been going to bars since I was 15. But then again, it's a whole different country.
 

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well i have been to a few bars/pubs before the country ones do nto care who comes in, what ever age, the ones in town center are only strict in the evening and night, not earlyer.

In the UK the age to get in to a normal bar is 18 years old, although if there are 'exotic dancers' its 21 so it varys from club to club
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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diablo

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It depends on local laws and the rules of the bar. Generally, you have to be 18, but some bars won't let guys in unless they're 20/21. Girls have it easy and aren't subject to the same rules.

Why don't you just go and ask the doorman how old you have to be to get in?
 

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I hate 21 drinking age. Its gay as hell.
 
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