bar scene at college

[universal]

i find that i have no problem going up to people and talking to them, but some times the convo fizzles out, i dont wanna be the same old boring guy with "how long u been here?" where u live type things...besides saying my name and smiling, and pointers? also i am not asking for all situations, many times convos go great without pasue but we've all had those times when u just need that something to say
thanks

 

[Trant]

I'm with you on this one, I have the same problems at bars around campus. It's kinda tough to find good openers in a bar setting, at least I think so. I'm almost more comfortable doing approaches NOT at a bar. Anyone out here with some advice to help us out?

 

[universal]

well, staying modest, im a good looking guy, ive done some modeling, and ill walk up to any1 anytime, i just sometimes freeze after hi my name is...

any suggestions? i know it depends on the girl, but u think i should just shock her with something like i coulndt help notice u were starring at my ass before?

 

[squirrels]

I frequent a lot of college bars. The thing about them is that lots of times, everyone knows everyone else. So if you're outside the "circle," it can seem intimidating, and many girls won't take time out to talk to you while they're buying drinks for all their girlfriends.

But regardless, they're just looking to get sh!t-faced and have a good time. Use all the "DJ tactics" like you normally would, but don't expect them to get you by alone, because you're dealing with loud noise, a rowdy atmosphere, and no one's in the mood for straight-up conversation.

Befriend her group if she's with one! This is KEY, if her friends don't like you, she's not going home with you. Don't kiss their asses, but be cool with them.

Then when you get her isolated, just go Gunwitch on her.

 

[DJZ]

I hang out at college bars every week, b/c well, I'm in college. I do agree about the everyone knowing each other thing. When I go into a club or bar around here, the first thing I do is go say hello to all my friends. Make my rounds and get hugs from all the hot ladies I know.

Now, the problem of fizzling conversation. I totally agree, this has happened to me many a time when meeting a new girl. I have found that the only times this happens is when I have not had any alchohol. Once I have about 2 drinks, it's like I can talk about anything, and never let the conversation die. I also am a lot funnier and just so much more outgoing once I have about 2 drinks. At this point I'm not drunk at all...just more personality.

 

[universal]

bump

 

[Big Pappy]

Conversations...

It's just my opinion and I could be wrong.

I notice that when I talk to girls in bars that they either want to talk or they don't. Don't forget why you're talking to them in the first place. It's to assess their interest level. If they aren't aiding in the natural flow of the conversation, they are either very shy or less likely to be interested in you. I go with the odds. If the girl can't hold up her own end of a conversation, I just next myself and move on.

 

[universal]

i agreee, im just thinking of topics, esp at the bar most convos r about the stupidest ****, last night a girl grabbed my ass as i walked by and we talked about asses forever...i mean it went well after that but im just trying to think what do u guys usally bring up