"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bank Pickup. Need suggestions.

Celadus

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There's a cute hispanic girl working at my bank. She's been giving me all the buying signals and seems to have it bad for me. Problem is she works the drive thru and I can't get a chance to talk to her.

I need to cash a check and I think I know what line she works. Think a note with my deposit seems a little childish? I wouldn't consider it if she wasn't a submissive type girl and seems to have very high interest.

What should it say? I need to make something happen with this girl. I guess I could talk to her through the microphone but it gets broadcast through the bank. hah
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I think a note could work if it's not too cliche or over the top. A little c/f could work.
 

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ya on the microphone when she says may i help you just say "YA I WANT TO CASH MY CHECK AND 1 OTHER THING.........CAN U GIVE ME RECIEPT WITH YOUR FIRST NAME AND PHONE NUMBER WRIITEN ON BACK.

OR endorse your check with a sticky note, saying you are kinda cute, wanna do lunch.
 
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Write her a note - "This is a "stick-up" give me your name and phone number and nobody gets hurt!"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Personally I would avoid taking my hot banker out on a date. Because let's just say if it doesn't work out, and you have to consistently go back to the bank, it's going to be awkward.

Even though I have a banker I occasionally "hit on" in a friendly way, I still wouldn't ask for her # because to me it's just a professional business relationship I have with her.

And also since she has access to all my financial information (how much I save, make, etc.), it's just weird. And I don't want to sound negative but she might be all "nice and friendly" because that is part of her job, but you never know! But I honestly would avoid this, but if you really want it the sticky note idea seems kinda cool :yes:
 

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Its only awkward if you let it be, If you find a way to ask her to go out with you and she rejects you its most likely going to be in a friendly way... just tell her you respect whatever her reason is and there wont be much more to it unless you try to continue to beat around the bush
 

Celadus

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Didn't get to the bank today. I'll give it a shot tomorrow..

As far as awkward, I'm not too worried about it. She never works the front desk and she can check out my bank account if she wants. She'll know straight away she can't live off me.

I can tell the difference between genuine and fake interest. Its in the eyes.
 

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I found myself in a similar situation with a hot bank tellar. I was going to do a note thing...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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