"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you feel that any girl you've banged in the past you could bang again without difficulty? Thats generally my feeling. Even the ones that get married would probably stray under the right circumstances to have a taste of the past.

this was quoted from Ricky on the bi-sexual thread. and there was no answer, so i decided to make a thread out of it. while this is generally my experience as well, there are exceptions. any comments?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks for bringing this up. I think there are a few responses guys might have to this. Some will say, why bang an old ex? I say because after awhile they become like new *****. It takes less effort than bringing a new one in and it can keep you sexually taken care of especially in between relationships.

Here's why I think women are more likely to do this.

1) They feel less slutty being with you since they've already had sex with you before.

2) They trust you a bit more, assuming the relationship didnt go horribly bad.

I'd like to see others perspective on this.

There are some absolute sex kittens freaks I've been with in the past that I wouldn't mind banging again.

What are the keys to getting them?

When I've gotten with an ex before, it wasn't as simple as a quick phone call (hey I'm back in town).

No I had to call them at least a while in advance. Hey I'm going to be in town, it would be great to see you sometime. If I have a chance I'll stop by.

Then arrange to meet her, but make sure it's later at night.

If she doesn't have a boyfriend that's she serious about you are 90% there.
 

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Yes, It could be pretty easy. But, it depends how she feels about you now and if she has a boyfriend now.
 

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In a similar situation right now. My rule of thumb is don't go back to banging an ex unless you're COMPLETELY over her. Even then, it's a little risky. Next thing you know, you're waking up the next morning, going to lunch, etc. Don't get back into the vicious cycle. **** her then leave.
 

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WC2 said:
My rule of thumb is don't go back to banging an ex unless you're COMPLETELY over her.
I agree 100% with this. Otherwise your headed for drama & headaches. Even if you are completely over here, there's likely to be drama & headaches.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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