You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Can you make me a temporary mod pass please ??Atom Smasher said:
]Erecting constant straw-man arguments and logical fallacies, and then resorting to name-calling once they are soundly displayed as fallacies does not constitute "sparking conversation" as far as I can tell.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If there's one thing being in advertising has taught me - it's that everything is propaganda...Danger said:I have a problem with propaganda
But does 2+2 always equal 4? Think about it. If I have $2 and I earn two more dollars and the government takes $0.50 in tax. My $2 + $2 = $1.50Danger said:LOL thanks for the laugh.
Thankfully you can trust logic. 2+2 will always be 4.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not that I'm where I want to be in life, but I working towards it. No offense but who are you to say what is considered contributing to this forum? Your rich (which is great for you man nothing wrong with that) and your married... and you were rich before you got married....backbreaker said:if you are going to ban him there are about 10 other people who add absolutely nothing to this forum you must ban as well. but you won't.
at least, humbleninja, actuality tries to make threads that spark conversation. there are a hand full of guys that do nothing but call people faggots, and throw dirt at other people and you let the roam free
it's why this forum has turned into a **** show. and then you actually start an attention whoring thread wanting to know "should you ban him". come on bro. if he broke rules, ban him. he hasn't. if you want to ban him for trolling you must ban others for trolling.
every other day a thread on this forum pops up about the direction of this forum, what's wrong with the forum. the 800 pound gorilla in the room, that people are trying to address in a passive aggressive manner is that there are too many real trolls on this forum and you guys do nothing about it.
you've turned this site into a totalitarian style website where any outside ideas or unique opinions are shamed as "attention whoring". I get blasted on alot but i never respond, not because i'm scared to do so but simply because I respect the fact that people are entitled to have different opinions on matter than I do; my opinion is not the word of god. but you don't agree with HN's style of posting, even though he broke no rules and you want to ban him? I don't even particularly like HN lol I mean i don't like him, but he's not my buddy or anything, it's just the principle of the matter.
I also find it pure hyprocisty that you want to ban someone simply for not liking his posts lol. on a grown ass man forum. but throwing dirt, calling dudes gay and talking down to other members for having opinions you don't agree with, that's all 100% DJ **** right there
i'd be more than willing for you to ban HN if it meant banning the marry trolls on this forum
This is actually the best way to deal with trolls. However, no one can bring themselves to do it. The people who complain the most are usually the ones who contribute the most to their threads.samspade said:Just ignore trolls. Nobody forces anybody to respond to a post.
Backbreaker isn't the one who is trying to silence what other people post.Noobolgy said:No offense but who are you to say what is considered contributing to this forum?