"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bam!! Its All About Presentation!!

Rint

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Presenting: Its the act of showing or to present to someone

Proof: I found something out studying the best playas or DJs at my school, and i found that it's not just cause their confident, cool, funny, and nice, but its how they present these features. My good friend DL is a great guy everyone luvs him he can tell a totally lame joke and everyone will laugh. I heard one of his jokes and tried saying it to totally diffrent people, and no one laughed. So i got DL to come over and say it and they all laughed. I then reliezed it was how DL presented it compared to me. He presented it with confidence he was going to make them laugh, and he presented courage by doing it even if he had doubts.

How do you present DJ features?: Well you cant take my word for it cause i can't do it, but to present DJ features is to have that feature inside you. I see some guys who fake it till they make it, and people don't like that guy. At first they'll like them, but they'll eventually see the fake, and you will lose respect.

When can you present DJ features?: CONVERSATION it's the perfect place to present you got DJ features. I asked a friend of mine who is a girl and is totally fine DDs i'd tap that if i wasn't so deep in the friend zone, cause i've known her 6 years, and i asked her what makes girls love playas, and she was telling me how its just how they feel attracted to confident men and Alpha Males and stuff, because that's human instinct to go for manly confident men and that instinct is in all women. So in order to present that in a conversation is not be afraid to ask or say anything, but the trick is you gotta know where it's just rude or offensive, but other then that you can show your confident, and brave by taking a chance with a joke or being the first to break the ice and open up.

Tone: Tone and how you say it is A HUGE THING i cannot emphasize this enough. Like my friend DL told his joke he did it with a very manly, confident tone. How do you know you have a good tone? Well you can tell by how people respond to you, like if you can a silly tone no one will believe you and see you as sarcastic. You can also make up for tone with the way you talk. Like my friend DL is african american and he talks really ganster and ganster matches well with his voice cause it makes him seem confident and cool, while when other people try it they look like total jackasses. So you can make up with tone by the way you talk. Like nice guys are seen as *****'s cause they present themselves as *****'s while DL is a total nice guy, but he's presented as a bad boy, because of his ganster talk.

I hopes this help, and submit anything you might want to add to my theory
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The bottom line is get out there and keep trying until you get results.
 

Doggystyle

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Yes tone is very important, i believe a lot of people overlook there voice tone, as i did.

You get so much better results even by saying a simple "hi" in the right tone
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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True. Inflection is a big thing too, as is sincerity of your tone. Meaning what you say goes a long way I think.

AFC: "Hey, come on, you're not fat, don't be silly, you're perfect as you are"
DJ: low-tone, smooth, slow speech and constant eye contact
"Hey...<pause> you're not fat...I've seen fat...you 'aint it"

If you think it through, you achieve a lot this way. You establish authority, experience and cut through stupid self-esteem sh!t tests with one sentence.
 
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